Too horny

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Estherpologist Sun 11-Apr-21 09:20:37

Is it just me, or does anyone else ever feel too horny? So it just becomes an irritation and you don't want to have sex or even deal with it on your own and even if you could, you just want the feeling to go away?

I don't mean at the office or visiting the in-laws. Sunday morning with the kids away for the day and all the house work is done. And you just want it to go away.

(I'm sure I need to get off this forum. I'm sure it's not helping! LOL)

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Parkerwhereareyou Sun 11-Apr-21 11:03:32

@Estherpologist

(I'm sure I need to get off this forum. I'm sure it's not helping! LOL)

Ha I was literally just thinking the same thing ...! I was thinking why am I only looking on the Sex talk and not eg how to clean out wheelie bins, etc, or all the other dilemmas on here.!

Yes I know what you mean about the feeling being so intense - it's like so overwhelming that you feel (sorry for this but) like you just need to be fucked hard for about 4 hours. And then you would be fine.

But I don't find it annoying. I love it and just have as many orgasms one way or another to make it calm down.

Trouble is that the more orgasms you have, the more you want sometimes. I think if you keep yourself topped up as it were with frequent orgasms, then it's not so bad - you don't get so much of the overwhelming urge, just a constant state of mid arousal which works nicely. I realised yesterday that I'm always quite aroused. I wondered if everyone else in the supermarket is like that. I was analysing them in the queue and most of them looked a bit bored, so maybe not? I love queues. Feeling meek and compliant and thinking to myself how wet I am inside.

(me acknowledging this about myself is a bit of a new thing - and it's got me wondering if everyone is like this?)

But, conclusion: definitely just a lot of hard sex is the best medicine.

everywhichway Sun 11-Apr-21 11:08:24

You carry on Parker- a Lidl of what you fancy does you good...!

Parkerwhereareyou Sun 11-Apr-21 11:14:24

@everywhichway
No not Lidl! No, that would feel a bit cheap ... Sainsbury's and Tesco's a bit too much traffic ... a big Asda with lots of dads on a Sunday morning? Hmm, maybe ... but my go to is M&S.

(They're all too serious in Waitrose - more excited by the ready to eat Duchy organic avocados they've just scored 😉) (It would be touch and go too for me with that - what's more exciting, the wet pussy or the perfectly ripe avocado? Maybe both?)

everywhichway Sun 11-Apr-21 11:29:53

Have both. Nothing succeeds like excess.

TheRealForReal Sun 11-Apr-21 11:51:11

I wish I could turn my libido off sometimes! You are not the only one OP 🤣

TheRealForReal Sun 11-Apr-21 11:55:20

*i realised yesterday that I'm always quite aroused. I wondered if everyone else in the supermarket is like that*

Oh god I am too. I don't think everyone is though!

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everywhichway Sun 11-Apr-21 13:02:55

I'm not. Well not in the Fruit & Veg aisle anyway. Too busy choosing avocados.

R2221 Sun 11-Apr-21 13:30:42

Same here. I just want it to go away. I’m big time pissed off with DH atm so no sex for a long time.

Estherpologist Sun 11-Apr-21 14:03:00

Next time I feel horny-grumoy "Hey honey, I just need to be fucked hard for about 4 hours. @Parkerwhereareyouon MN said so." Sadly I'm not sure that'll work.

I'm not horny all the time. A lot of it, yeah, and I'm fine with that. Most times it's not a big deal. Just sometimes it feels too much. Horny should be a happy place and it makes me sad and even more irritable that it's not.

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Parkerwhereareyou Sun 11-Apr-21 14:59:42

Most times it's not a big deal. Just sometimes it feels too much. Horny should be a happy place and it makes me sad and even more irritable that it's not

@Estherpologist sorry though that you feel bad and my own silly joking sounds so awful when quoted 😱 I need to remember that!!! 🤭

So - when you feel like that - can your partner help you feel better? Because sometimes being exposed to the male hormones in semen can actually help.

Estherpologist Sun 11-Apr-21 15:15:47

It's ok. I knew you were joking. I was trying to join in on the joke without getting sucked down the rampant rabbit hole of lewd jokes about Waitrose Essential Cucumbers and posh tarts.

I know there are worse problems to have than feeling too horny to masturbate, let alone let alone else being involved.

You actually have a really good point about having more sex more often to even out the troughs an peaks. I think that would help me, but we've not been in that place for a long time. We're sort of working on it at the moment, or maybe I'm working on that at the moment, but that's for another post. Or maybe not.

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Parkerwhereareyou Sun 11-Apr-21 17:30:16

@Estherpologist

I'm really sorry - that sounds tricky to deal with. My instinct is that if you surf out that issue with your DH then the other one may resolve itself X

EmptyOrchestra Sun 11-Apr-21 17:47:44

I go through long phases of no sex drive at all (literally like the sex part of my brain has been removed) and then short periods of very high sex drive. Fucking hormones.

Worst part is that when it’s really strong, nothing relieves it. Orgasms make me more frustrated, even really powerful ones. Sex isn’t enough.

I would love to have a normal level of sex drive all the time rather than this. It’s not pleasant at all.

Lovelymonkeyninetynine Sun 11-Apr-21 22:56:58

Op have you tried sitting and going a bit deeper with these feelings? I wonder if underneath the 'horny' feelings sometimes is something else, try to think does it feel angry maybe or sad, and dig a bit deeper?
I only say this as I had this recently, felt really horny (some of which was the case due to hormones and circumstance) but the bit that felt frustrating (anger) and upsetting (sad) once I really sat with I realised I was both angry with someone at the moment and also needed a good cry!
It actually gave me the release I thought I needed from sex.

Estherpologist Mon 12-Apr-21 10:01:45

@Lovelymonkeyninetynine I'm sure you're right that there are other emotions involved. If I think about it in those terms, maybe it's when the hormones coincides most with a need for (missing) emotional connection. Or maybe it's as @Parkerwhereareyou suggests, and I just need to get lots of hard sex. Which would be nice shock

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B1rdflyinghigh Mon 12-Apr-21 23:51:08

I feel like this at a weekend. I think it's the break from work, so my mind wanders. I adore Sundays to myself. Id happily play all day.

Parkerwhereareyou Tue 13-Apr-21 07:06:38

Swimming. I forgot to mention that. Lots of hard swimming.

Mooncats Tue 13-Apr-21 11:45:04

Not fully sure I get the OP. Horny but don't want sex - can't relate . Soo horny that it's getting in the way of my ability to function and need sex to sort it - yes

Estherpologist Tue 13-Apr-21 12:34:19

@Parkerwhereareyou I think I prefer shagging.🤣
@Mooncats Oddly I can function fine, as long as I'm busy. Something to take my mind off it. But as soon as i stop, the hormones returns and i get ratty.

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Mooncats Tue 13-Apr-21 18:36:05

But why don't you want sex if you're horny ?

Tal45 Tue 13-Apr-21 18:49:25

Is it the emotional connection with someone else you are craving and the sex that comes with that that is missing?
I don't ever feel so horny that I don't want to orgasm but without an emotional connection sex doesn't do much for me.

Mooncats Tue 13-Apr-21 20:56:01

I'm the same tal. Once I've discovered the joys of sex with an emotional connection , nothing else will do .

Parkerwhereareyou Wed 14-Apr-21 06:40:18

Is it the emotional connection with someone else you are craving and the sex that comes with that that is missing?

Yes.

Estherpologist Sun 18-Apr-21 06:48:42

@Mooncats Why? Because sex and irritable don't work well together for me. Why feeling very horny makes me irritable is something I don't understand.
@Tal45 I can't usually separate the physical and emotional needs, except when I feel like that and then it all gets a bit confusing.

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