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Rough foreplay(7 Posts)
After a bit of inappropriate playful flirting hands went south and a bit of rough foreplay started, didnt last that long as we were interuppted. I felt a bit tender but didn't think anything of it, but later I realised I had been bleeding quite a bit, definitely not my period. Has this ever happened to anyone else? And how do I face this guy again? I just feel so embarrassed cause it should of happened in the first place.
It's not surprising that you would bleed if he was being rough. He could easily have scratched you or caused an abrasion. I'd keep an eye on things to make sure that you heal. If there is more bleeding and you're concerned, talk to your GP.
When you say it "shouldn't have happened", what do you mean? You mention "inappropriate" flirting... Did you consent to this guy touching you in such a rough way? Nothing wrong with that type of play but only if you'd told him you were ok with it.
Do you think it was deliberately rough or was he just clumsy? I hope you've told him that he injured you, even if it was inadvertent.
I have participated in what I considered to be rough foreplay and have never made a woman bleed. I shudder to think what he did to you. The fact that it has happened without you requesting that level of roughness, and on what seems to be your first sexual encounter with this man (I may well be wrong on this), would lead me to suggest that you ought not to be letting him anywhere near your genitals in the future.
DP catches with me with his nails very occasionally & is always upset that he'd forgotten to trim them before bed.
Never made me bleed though.
I've never bled from foreplay but I have from sex when it's been a bit rough. I think it's if my cervix is bumped at a certain angle. I never find it painful during the sex though. Was the rough foreplay something you wanted? I hope you're okay.
Yes, I have had this. Rough foreplay followed by rough sex. There was quite a lot of blood afterwards (think light period type bleed) and some pain. Even though it was consensual, I felt bruised emotionally after and didn’t see him again. Because of the position we were in, it must have been obvious that I was bleeding and yet he didn’t ask if I was ok, just carried on regardless. I did feel embarrassed initially but then I realised that I had no need to be.
You shouldn’t feel embarrassed. He was rough with you and he hurt you. Even if it was completely consensual (was it?) you shouldn’t come out of a sexual encounter bleeding and in pain.
And anyhow, be honest: what woman really likes 'rough' foreplay?