I hate blowjobs

(19 Posts)
Changeme20 Wed 02-Dec-20 14:39:05

Please tell me I’m not the only one?
Husband doesn’t pressure me (thank god) but I know he’d love it if I did them more.

My two main problems with it are: it tastes horrible. I’ve literally been in the shower and helped him wash, I’ve watched him wash. I know he washes properly but it tastes disgusting. Which means I dread it going anywhere near my face.

Second problem: he’s large 😩 girth is a major issue, within 20 seconds my jaw starts to hurt so bad.

We do other stuff thankfully, and luckily he doesn’t complain because I literally feel like a lazy wife who receives and never gives. I’d LOVE to give him a blow job and satisfy him but I can’t get round these two problems.

Not really after advice, as I don’t think there is a solution, just looking for a place to rant about it.

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Littleminx1 Wed 02-Dec-20 14:46:32

I don't know what to suggest about the girth issue but re the taste I would suggest some flavoured lube hopefully that will hide the taste

eeiizzol Wed 02-Dec-20 18:09:50

Your not the only one I hate it too. The only times I do do it (this is going to sound bad) either when I've been drinking or if we're 69ing. But like you husband doesn't complain but I make up for it in other ways.

Mxflamingnoravera Wed 02-Dec-20 19:43:51

If it tastes disgusting then something is wrong if he's washing properly. Are you sure it's taste or is it really just not liking/wanting to do it? If it's the latter then own it, not everyone wants to give blow jobs and you should not feel obliged to do anything you don't want to do.

Ifitaintgotnoswing Wed 02-Dec-20 20:17:10

Some people hate giving oral and thats all there is too it.

If it was a deal breaker for him he’d have left by now.

Muuuuuummm Wed 02-Dec-20 22:18:55

If you dont want to that's fair enough. If you want to try you could try a lovely hand job using your mouth a little too. That would help with the jaw ache and as someone else suggested something tasty on him will help with taste. I like the taste of coconut oil 🙂

PrincessPain Thu 03-Dec-20 15:57:13

Not sure about the girth.
But I spit on my hand and run it all around the head and shaft. A full moisturising massage with it, then when I put it on my mouth it just tastes like my mouth so isn't really very noticeable.

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MisterT373 Thu 03-Dec-20 18:53:15

Slight crossover on this topic from "AIBU - Supermarlet Secrets " - Aldi do a great range of mayonnaise (see mayonnaise but think lubricant) . Find one you enjoy the taste of and think of the cock as a large crudité you don't have to eat.

Arnoldthecat Fri 04-Dec-20 10:31:10

Surely a freshly washed dick should have a fairly inoffensive taste ??

Voyager54 Fri 04-Dec-20 18:28:53

Use the tip of penis only and not the full girth and length

Palavah Wed 09-Dec-20 20:53:02

taste - it shouldn't taste disgusting when he's freshly washed. Do you mean his penis or his semen? If an extra strong mint (also makes your mouth tingly) or some flavoured lube isn't sufficient then has he been checked out by a GP?

sore jaw - let your hand do most of the work and your mouth can be the cherry on the cake. again, don't underestimate the power of lube

nosswith Thu 10-Dec-20 07:41:16

If he is happy with the sex you have, and you don't do something you are uncomfortable with, what is the issue?

5pForAPlasticBag Thu 10-Dec-20 08:34:33

Could the issue be that you’re trying to be 100% mouth when you could be more 60% hand, 20% tongue, 10% cleavage rub and just 10% mouth?
Mixing it up and reducing the mouth content basically. I doubt he’d complain and he’d still call it a BJ.

BubblyBarbara Fri 11-Dec-20 01:57:52

Surely a freshly washed dick should have a fairly inoffensive taste ??

Some men when their excited leak precum out that can taste funny

StarlightLady Fri 11-Dec-20 06:36:54

I’ve watched this thread with interest but not commented up until now, because the OP said she did not like it and nobody can change that. I’m also unsure if the reference is to the taste of ejaculate or a penis per se.

Personally, l find giving a blowie quite comforting (‘sister says we must have been deprived of dummies as kids!), but it should be a gentle process not a gagging thrusting exercise or an endurance test; think ice lolly.

A freshly washed man should taste quite neutral. That said, different individuals do taste very different. It is very much diet related. You can also tell a smoker straight away! Also avoid after asparagus!

With regard to diet, a regular intake of strawberries, kiwi fruit, blueberries, melon, pineapple, apple juice, cranberry juice can make a considerable difference. You also end up with a healthier man!

BackToTheCaveman Fri 11-Dec-20 08:34:20

Re: the pp by @StarlightLady "Personally, l find giving a blowie quite comforting".

I think my DP may be the same. Sometimes when I am sat watching TV, she will lie on the settee with her head on my stomach and take me in her mouth(while she watches the TV). I instigated this years ago, but its usually her that instigates now.

Thelittleweasel Tue 15-Dec-20 10:07:27

@Changeme20

As most say if he does shower there really should be no smell/taste at all. The suggestion to see the doctor [or urologist] is a good one. Are you completely sure he does not have a phimosis [tight foreskin] as the build up under the skin will be pretty foul. In days gone by children had school medicals and it would have been picked up

Pechanga Tue 15-Dec-20 14:39:25

I've recently discovered a great podcast called 'Bad Girls Bible' with Sean Jameson...wow what an eye opener!

There are two full episodes dedicated to Blow Jobs with dozens of tips and tricks, some of them didn't appeal to me at all, but I've tried many new techniques since and they have all been enthusiastically enjoyed.

I think you'll find ways to get around your partners girth, if your jaw is aching you're using the wrong technique. Of course, if blow jobs really aren't your thing then that's fine, but if you find a few tricks they work for you and openly communicate with your partner, perhaps agree that it'll just be foreplay for shorter periods of time I'm sure he'll appreciate and enjoy whatever you're willing to offer.

But....seriously, go and find that podcast and get listening, it's changed my sex life for the better in all sorts of ways!

Wantsadvice1978909 Thu 17-Dec-20 06:35:34

I will only do this if I have flavoured lube. Honestly there’s so many good ones! I love the cookie dough one 😛

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