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What do men like best in the way of foreplay ( given to them by a female ) ?(25 Posts)
Please share . I feel very inexperienced .I'm sure it will boil down to talking and asking but I'd really appreciate some tips to give me something to ask about .
I'd especially like advice on hand action below the waist ..
Are there any commonly liked actions ?
I've not mentioned blow jobs as I've read a lot on here about those .
Teasing with hand and mouth. Talking about what you'd like to do . Telling him what you want from him. Getting him to lick your fingers which are hopefully already wet from you exploring your own arousal. Firm but gentle grasp works best for him just under the ridge. Gentle rhythm to start with. Be guided by how he squirms and his breathing. Rub your wetness on him then offer to lick it off. Don't be shy. Sex is a mind fuck as much as physical fun.
From a personal point of view I'd just be happy from a lot of body to body contact. Snog my face off and play with my dick and I'm raring to go.
This may be unusual, but going down on a woman is so enjoyable, that's all I want to do as foreplay.
Not a man but I'd echo getting him to explore/say what he wants to do to you - does he like breast play, going down on a woman etc... most men I've been with enjoy that aspect and then it is their turn for me to either play or go down on them before PIV.
Just be confident in what you are doing, as for technique, we are all slightly different, obviously the head of a penis is the sensitive bit, but dont just rub that, so rub the shaft but make sure your involving the head. Try lube if hes circumcized or it feels like friction, basicly friction is not your friend.
Blowjobs.... most men love blow jobs, so cant really go wrong in that aspect
Thanks for this everyone .
Yes ,I can see being confident is an important component .A hesitant/nervous fumble isn't going to be a turn on .
I'm not sure confident applies to me in that department ,but there is a certain abandonment that comes with desire and affection that is very freeing .
And a knowledge that one's efforts are being appreciated ,not marked out od 10 .
The couples on Strictly don't turn in a polishes performance without practice. With sex there are boundaries to cross, things to learn and things to practice. Don't think you're going to get labelled as a crap shag if things don't go as planned in a rom com. Confidence comes over time- just take small steps and you'll get there. Be kind to yourself.
Confidence is great, dirtiness too; but the sexiest thing of all is openess. Saying what you like, asking what he likes...if you can be open and honest and both of you feel secure enough to be vulnerable....that is sooooo horny. Proper trust.
@nosswith if only all men were like you 🤣🤣🤣
I'm 100% with Nosswith on that! There are a lot of men who enjoy giving oral but you need technique aa well as willing !
Where does one start. could write an essay
Bullet points will do .No pun intended .
Makes me think of the Rowan Atkinson sketch where he plays a vicar giving a sermon from the pulpit
"Last Sunday after mass, a young lady came to see me in the sacristy and she said to me 'Father- what is the position of the Church on oral sex?'
I replied "Well my child, I'd like to help you, but I don't know what oral sex is" - so the young lady was kind enough to show me.....
So now, when a young lady comes to me with the question "Tell me father - what is the churches position on oral sex?" My response to her is
"Well I'd like to help you...but I don't know what oral sex is..."
@peridito - good one!
@noego - c’mon, you can’t leave it hanging like that! Do share 😁
Nah!! you'll all be heading for your wands
heading** I mean reaching for your wands
Go to YouTube and search for "Touch & Go - Straight To Number One"
Seeing as noego won't spill the beans...here goes...(apologies for TMI)
There are so many approaches to take...
Oral (on her) This is AMAZING!!! to see your lady squirm with pleasure and to hear and feel her reach orgasm with you using your tongue and fingers is such a turn on
Sexting - if you are a 'What's for tea' and 'I'll be home in 15' etc kind of texter then you will have to get past any initial embarrassment of texting. Start early in the day...things like 'I've been thinking of you (insert details of the last time you had sex) and it's turning me on' Then go to '(insert details of how your DP knows you are horny..stiff nipples, wet vagina etc) because i've been thinking of you). Keep this up all day, getting more and more sexual as the day goes on...hopefully this will mean that the second bang when your DP gets in will be the front door closing!!
Explore his body - There will be erogenous zones on your DP's body. One way to find these would be to do a bit of role play. Offer him a massage pretending to be asian, eastern european (think Villanelle off Killing Eve!) whatever you feel comfortable with (obviously you have to make the time for this)...start with him lying down on his front and ask him to tell you when whatever you are doing feels good. When you get around his arse cheeks use your nails (if you have them) to gently scratch him and slightly push his legs apart...carry on with the gentle scratching around his balls. If you are getting a reaction, bide your time until you ask him to turn over. If he is hard, ignore this area for the time being, but every so often touch him there briefly. Once you have decided to go to the 'happy ending' use massage oil, but be careful if you use condoms during sex as the oil can weaken/damage the rubber.
You could also do the above with your DP blindfolded and also you could invoke a 'no touching' rule on you, but tell him first obviously.
Blow jobs - Someone once said 'there's no such thing as a bad blow job'. They're not far from the truth to be honest. Surprise him, again making sure you have the time and are not going to be disturbed. While your DP is working from home, for example....also there were some tiktok videos of women walking into a room, dropping the towel they were wearing in front of their man and watching their reactions. There may well have been other videos with a variance on this theme as well....try them, but only if you are sure your DP won't turn you down...if he does, he's an idiot!!! Also, if he is standing up, while you are licking up his shaft with the tip of your tongue, give him 'the eyes'...big, doe eyes...this works!!!!
Dressing up role play - Nurse, policewoman, schoolgirl, army girl, French maid...one of these is bound to work. Lovehoney have some great costumes with sizes to fit all at a reasonable cost.
All of the above I would class as sexual and lead to sex. For me there is nothing better that holding each other close, gently kissing and caressing each other until you make the most amazing love to each other. I would take this every day, but one of the sexual examples above every so often also works a treat!!
@secretrugbyfan - thank you for lots of great suggestions and certainly not TMI. Your DP is a lucky lady 😊
Foreplay doesn't necessarily need to involve having something done to you. I enjoy kissing and caressing as much as anyone else , but what turns me on most is turning on my partner. I'd rather go down on my partner than her necessarily go down on me. Huge turn on to watch her reaction.
Ok my starter for 10...........
I like to be seduced.
So plenty of anticipation, sexting or phone call.
I like to be sat opposite my woman having dinner in a candlelit room. Have plenty of eye contact. I like to watch her playing with her hair in a sexy way. How she runs her tongue over her lips, How she eats her food, drinks her wine, how she uses her hands in a seductive way. Smelling her scent from across the table. Seducing me with her body language.
When i we move to the sofa I like to have my neck nuzzled and feel her breath. I like the inside of my thigh being caressed. My shirt unbuttoned and her hand inside on my chest running her finger through my chest hair and gently scratching it. Undoing my belt and trousers but nothing else. (yet)
I like her to straddle me and plant lots of soft kisses on my face and neck and leading up to deep long tongue entering kissed as her enthusiasm grows and to undo my shirt more and kiss my chest and shoulders.............
Before we even get to the bedroom
Well @noego that was worth the wait! Very eloquent too!