How can I tell if my vag is still presentable and functioning?

[ToooOldForThis]

After many single years I have the chance of having sex...am utterly panicked about the state of my vagina. 2 natural childbirths 10+ years ago, no one has been in there since other than nurses doing smear tests and the doc who fitted my coil. Would one of them have told me if it was a car crash down there? How do i even know if everything has gone back in the right place? I'm so worried about this, any advice?

[FortunesFave]

If you're not in pain or uncomfortable then it's fine! Men love vaginas so much that they don't usually judge them OP.

[xpc316e]

Vulvas & vaginas have an infinite numbers of looks, and there is no 'normal' way for women to look. Any man who is afforded the privilege of access to your sexual parts will not be concerned in the slightest by how it looks down there.

Best wishes.

[ToooOldForThis]

Thank you!
But what if there's something wrong? Would smear check up people have told me this?

[PinotPony]

What do you mean by "wrong"? Do you mean how it looks aesthetically? Or are you worried about something like tightness?

[ToooOldForThis]

All of it really! Tightness must be an issue I'm so worried it feels bad for him.
And I had stitches both times it's awful looking down there compared to before.

[Whatliesbeneath707]

@ToooOldForThis - bless you, I wouldn’t worry about how things look down there, as I’m sure that won’t be at the forefront of your OHs mind, just like @xpc316e has said.
The vagina has an amazing capacity to deliver a baby, recover and heal - another wonderful part of the human body.
Enjoy your new relationship and all that goes with it!

[user1471505356]

The Guardian newspaper publishes photos of 100 vulvas online.

[TooTrueToBeGood]

I honestly wouldn't worry, not about what your eventual partner(s) might think anyway. Never in the whole of human history has a heterosexual man looked at a vagina and thought "nah, that's not up to my standards".

[PinotPony]

@TooTrueToBeGood

I honestly wouldn't worry, not about what your eventual partner(s) might think anyway. Never in the whole of human history has a heterosexual man looked at a vagina and thought "nah, that's not up to my standards".

😂😂

[rwalker]

As long as it's not swinging between your knees I'm sure he won't notice or care .

[ToooOldForThis]

@TooTrueToBeGood

I honestly wouldn't worry, not about what your eventual partner(s) might think anyway. Never in the whole of human history has a heterosexual man looked at a vagina and thought "nah, that's not up to my standards".

That made me really laugh! You are all right, i know you are. I just don't want to be the one he remembers as having the big bucket fanjo. Tempted by one of those pelvic floor exercisers...

[Happyhusband]

If he's only got 3 inches then any fanjo will be a big bucket....

[CarolVordermansBum]

Mines in a right state, I think if anyone seen it they would need therapy afterwards

[ToooOldForThis]

@CarolVordermansBum

Mines in a right state, I think if anyone seen it they would need therapy afterwards

Yip this is how i feel too!

[BLToutanowhere]

Man see vagina, man go wooo! We are not complicated beasts.

[gindinner]

This is going to sound odd. You need to spend some time looking at it until you get used to it. 😁. Seriously

[PinotPony]

www.gashtrays.com/
I've bought one of these kits... that's Christmas presents sorted! 😂

[zarek]

Must admit I've never come across an unpresentable vag. I wouldn't fret too much.

[ToooOldForThis]

What if it's an absolute cavernous bucket though??

[TooTrueToBeGood]

@ToooOldForThis

What if it's an absolute cavernous bucket though??

Stop it. Find your self confidence and stop looking for problems. For the record, my wife had 5 children all by vaginal birth before we met and another one with me. She has stretch marks that make her tummy look like an OS map of the Cairngorms, boobs that have completely given up fighting with gravity and a vag that you'd think might whistle like a milk bottle in a strong breeze. Yet she was when we met and still is now, 25+ years on, the only woman I want and she is sexy as hell.

There is so much more to beauty and attractiveness than the one-dimensional nonsense promoted by the media and glamour industries. True beauty comes from within and doesn't age. That may sound like romantic nonsense but it really isn't. If it was then all the "beautiful" people would be in perfect relationships and all the rest of us would remain single for life.

[ToooOldForThis]

That is both the funniest and the loveliest post I've read for a while! Thank you!

[MisterT373]

Reminds me of the story of the women who in an attempt to get her husband turned on she texts him a picture of her vagina to which he responds "oh great! Looking forward to lasagne for dinner "

[StrawberryTot]

Do you still have a vagina?

Do you feel ready to have sex?

If you answered yes to these two questions then you have a vagina that is presentable and functioning.

How you display it, is totally up to you

[hairykiwi]

What @TooTrueToBeGood said, with bells on.

[Cornucopia55]

A midwife friend makes these lovely ceramic bowls. I find them very useful for scaring teenagers away when I want to chat with my friends without them eavesdropping. Perhaps some vag-themed artwork would help you to chill?