How long does it take your male partner/husband to cum?

(31 Posts)
curiousgin Tue 20-Oct-20 14:31:08

Just curios! My partner is about 10-15 mins, is this normal?

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MadamShazam Tue 20-Oct-20 15:09:51

My partner is about 10-15 minutes aswell, sometimes quicker if its been a while. Completely normal.

kawaii2 Tue 20-Oct-20 15:30:05

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PussGirl Tue 20-Oct-20 17:20:55

15-20 mins but he can hold off indefinitely if he wants to.

Crystal87 Tue 20-Oct-20 23:07:58

It depends, he can come after a couple of minutes of penetration if we're having a quickie and we've not had sex in a few days, but he can go for 20/30 mins if he holds off, by slowing the pace and changing position.

widespreadpanic Tue 20-Oct-20 23:09:10

Ugh... too long 😂 = about 15 mins or less

Crystal87 Tue 20-Oct-20 23:10:38

But not 30 mins of solid penetration, if he wants to last longer he will stop and focus on pleasuring me before carrying on.

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PinotPony Thu 22-Oct-20 15:49:18

Frequently more than 30 minutes but he admits to always masturbating to porn so I suspect there's some "death grip" going on. It's not an issue. We have a very fulfilling sex life and neither of us place much importance on the "goal" of cumming.

Things have improved since I dommed him and put him on orgasm denial for a week before he sees me! 😂

PumpkinsPatch Fri 23-Oct-20 15:11:04

Totally depends what we're doing.

Could be 20-30 minutes of penetrative sex. But that's rare - more because of me that's a long time at it.

Generally the whole "experience" is 30-45 minutes. But often only the last 5-10 are actual sex. Sometimes even less.

But we both have a great time. So as long as you're enjoying yourselves I wouldn't worry about the clock.

humpday Fri 23-Oct-20 18:53:11

3-5 minutes if there's a lot of foreplay. 15ish if there isn't.

TheWindowDonkey Tue 27-Oct-20 16:06:16

Current partner, anywhere between 20 minutes and a couple of hours....depending on what we do. We are very compatible. Its awesome.

Secretsquirrel2017 Tue 27-Oct-20 20:06:56

In early years like 30 years ago it could be only a minute or 2. But I was always ready for round 2 soon after

with practice it Gets better but long periods without sets everything back.

Then the fear of not lasting long enough leads to holding back and continuing long after dw has orgasmed. It’s all very difficult if you don’t DTD regularly. And we don’t.

FippertyGibbett Wed 28-Oct-20 20:56:30

Far too long, but that’s a combination of age, wine and antidepressants 😫

wizzywig Sat 31-Oct-20 11:02:17

One verse of an Adele song once he is in me.
Start to finish: I can definitely have a 10min timer on Alexa (for the kids food to cook) and I'll be dressed and back down in the kitchen before Alexa goes off. But it's my fault for being so sexy apparently

Romemarie Sat 31-Oct-20 16:52:08

Depends really on how much foreplay, but if not much about 20 minutes if lots I’d say 10 minutes at max.

Blackcountrychik Tue 10-Nov-20 02:46:32

About 3 minutes and yes definitely not long enough. Once a week/fortnight. I feel like I'm constantly horny but more so due to never feeling satisfied. Sometimes I would love round 2 but it's unheard of in this relationship. Lovely guy but sexually I need a lot more sad

Firenight Tue 10-Nov-20 13:56:33

About 30 seconds. I have given up being bothered.

Nowayhozay Tue 10-Nov-20 14:18:02

No man in my life right now but the last one would manage around ten minutes of actual penetrating sex. I have had partners who could last longer but were not good lovers.
One guy that I was with for a fairly long time would cum as soon as I touched him down there he was very embarrassed but it didn't bother me as he was always ready again very quickly, I like to think I helped build his confidence and hopefully his control.

Feelingthelobe Wed 11-Nov-20 00:39:37

When I tell him I am done. If I just want a quickie and one orgasm he can cum in 2-3 minutes. If I want a marathon session and multiples he can (usually, not always) go as long as I want him to although sometimes has to pause for a few seconds if getting over excited.

By a country mile the best lover I have ever had, but still relatively early days so hoping it continues

Strawberry33 Wed 11-Nov-20 02:42:02

Three mins :-/ just as well I am the 20 percent of women who orgasm easily!

MrsTombliboo Wed 11-Nov-20 18:41:31

My DH doesn't cum at all these days, he'll just carry on until I call time as his heart's not really in it anymore.

lunalulu Wed 11-Nov-20 22:52:27

MrsTombliboo

My DH doesn't cum at all these days, he'll just carry on until I call time as his heart's not really in it anymore.


😐 sorry ... that sounds difficult.

As fir mine how quick - depends what we are doing. Usually pretty quick.

thelake Mon 28-Dec-20 13:00:11

No idea but doesn't feel very long once he's inside. Sometimes a lot longer. A few nights ago he got 'over excited' during foreplay but to his credit we cleaned up and then got cost again and had PIV

heartlikepaper Mon 28-Dec-20 13:27:02

"Frequently more than 30 minutes but he admits to always masturbating to porn so I suspect there's some "death grip" going on. It's not an issue. We have a very fulfilling sex life and neither of us place much importance on the "goal" of cumming.

Things have improved since I dommed him and put him on orgasm denial for a week before he sees me! 😂"

Seems to be quite a common issue these days, such a pity as i like a guy to come a few times with me but not if feels like a marathon each time!, i like your solution @pinotpony

MisterT373 Mon 28-Dec-20 21:03:01

Men who cum can be classified as stayers (those who can stay hard longer but only cum once) and repeaters (im sure you can figure out their tendencies)

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