When did everyone have sex after birth?

(26 Posts)
Singsoul91 Thu 10-Sep-20 14:38:58


I'm 5 weeks PP and tried last night to have sex but wasn't pleasant and but painful so we stopped.

How long did people leave it until they tried?

I'm scared my vagina is ruined forever haha!

I suffered with shoulder dystocia in labour so was painful and complicated. Might be why

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Thelittleweasel Thu 10-Sep-20 14:56:34

@ the old "joke" is did you have a private room. The old advice was after the check up

YetAnotherBlokeLurking Thu 10-Sep-20 18:30:34

I waited about 17 years after my birth before I had sexsmile

Echobelly Thu 10-Sep-20 18:32:57

About 6-8 weeks I think? But I had to have c-sections both times and, so my fandango wasn't beaten about grin

Anotherblokelurking Sat 12-Sep-20 08:41:03


I waited about 17 years after my birth before I had sexsmile

grin 15 years for me!

My DW1 was stitched up by a male doctor after giving birth to DS1 and it was a good six months before we achieved almost painless PIV. After DS2 a female nurse looked and said something like - Oh my god who stitched you up last time, what a mess - we had PIV about 6/8 weeks later.

jessstan2 Sat 12-Sep-20 08:48:16

Just short of nine weeks. I bled for eight weeks, then the doctor gave me some tablets which stopped it within a couple of days and we could proceed. It was OK when we did, neither of us had minded waiting and my stitches had healed well. You hear about people doing it almost straight after birth but that must be a bit yucky and wouldn't be good if they had stitches.

jessstan2 Sat 12-Sep-20 08:49:18


I waited about 17 years after my birth before I had sexsmile

Clever :-).


MylittleLovebug Sat 12-Sep-20 17:22:31

4 weeks but I waa lucky and had an easy virginal birth

BubblyBarbara Sun 13-Sep-20 20:56:43

It’s not pleasant at all until after finished breast feeding to be fair so while the time to try is only a few weeks the actual time to wanting to was years

RealityExistsInTheHumanMind Sun 13-Sep-20 21:00:01

July 1977
and then
Oct 1978

Gin4thewin Sun 13-Sep-20 23:16:17

Probably waited the 6 weeks with my 1st, 10 days after my second and it would of been sooner if id had my way. Dc2 was very very sick and needed surgery at a week old so I think we both needed that closeness from eachother.

VickySunshine Mon 14-Sep-20 05:58:21

12 weeks for me. I had to get back into shape and the little ones sleeping through the night.

tdh1972 Tue 15-Sep-20 14:57:57

It was 6 months and then very sporadic after that (she had a tear). To be honest it was a problem until she gave birth again 2 ½ years and tore again, only this time it was stitched and healed properly. However it's probably down to fewer than times a year in the 16 years since sad

nex18 Tue 15-Sep-20 23:18:36

About 6-8 weeks after my first but it was uncomfortable for a good while afterwards, about 10 days after my second. Tearing and stitches first time but not with my second, obviously made a big difference.

PunkStrumpet Wed 16-Sep-20 11:06:34

@MylittleLovebug you've just outed yourself there Mary.

YetAnotherBlokeLurking Wed 16-Sep-20 11:53:52

🤣I was going to post similar but thought a male lurker should limit their pun based posts!

Iloveme30 Wed 16-Sep-20 16:26:04


I waited about 17 years after my birth before I had sexsmile

TheIckabog Wed 23-Sep-20 18:04:09

Around 4 months I think. We were exhausted and I suffered with complications of a traumatic labour and birth for a while. DD didn’t sleep at all for several months so it was infrequent. We’ve only just got things back on track and she’s over a year now.

Babyboomtastic Fri 25-Sep-20 10:14:20

11 days and 13 days I think. Both sections. But having some 'fun' from about day 4-5, with my first (second one we had a toddler round so no chance).

CormoranStrike Mon 28-Sep-20 21:41:55


*@MylittleLovebug* you've just outed yourself there Mary.


Leylafrenchie Sun 04-Oct-20 22:23:11

1 week... god it was shit. 😂

Mikeymoo12 Tue 06-Oct-20 20:58:51

3 weeks and I was a bit nervous in case it was shit but it was very good 😊

catsjammies Wed 07-Oct-20 22:09:45

Um, about 4 months after DC1 and 9 months after DC2. DC2 now coming up to 2 and finally feel like sex life is back to normal, and quite enjoyable again.

angelofmum Thu 08-Oct-20 21:59:53

2 weeks but I had an easy birth and no tearing or stitches.

desperatehousewife21 Sat 17-Oct-20 12:57:45

3 weeks after each DC. Both straight forward vaginal births.

Sounds like hardly anytime when I look back, but at the time we were both gagging for it after 2ish weeks grin

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