Sexting...etiquette and safety

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CluelessWriter Tue 01-Sep-20 17:26:01

I'm a regular but it's my first foray into this topic...name changed for obvious reasons!

A few week ago a guy from a mutal interest page on FB slid into my DMs and we've been messaging ever since, mostly about said interest, with a bit of flirty banter.

Late on Saturday night he messaged me, following up on chat from previous day/early morning. Long story short it got a bit a more personal than usual and it was clear that sexting was on the cards, however he was obviously after me making the first move and having never done that before (last time I was single mobiles didn't exist) I wasn't 100% confident to do so. I kept trying to get him to put something out there, as it were, but nada.

Eventually convo ground to a halt (I didn't reply to his last message because I just couldn't think of a reply) after 4 hours of back and forth. I messaged him briefly about something non-sexual the following day and haven't heard from him since (not necessarily unusual, we'd only been messaging once or twice a week).

So...I'm slightly kicking myself now, because I was really enjoying myself, and if he'd just taken it slightly further himself I'd have been up for it, but I suppose perhaps he was being cautious/respectful by leaving the ball in my court?

Clearly am massively overthinking it and working on the assumption there won't be a repeat performance, but if the opportunity arises again I'd like to make the most of it!

Any tips?

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Anotherbloke1 Tue 01-Sep-20 17:39:30

If you exchange pictures use snapchat...they automatically delete after seen and you get notification if he does a screenshot

CluelessWriter Tue 01-Sep-20 20:17:01

I have no intention whatsoever of doing pictures...he's about 15 years younger than me and I'm not sure if he realises that yet!

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noego Tue 01-Sep-20 22:49:27

Whatsapp or viber do not have a profile pic, can always move up to voice if the convo is getting hot smile Nothing like a bit of mutual masturbation over the phone smile
Block if necessary I.e. they become a nuisance.
No photo's of body parts including if necessary the face

I like sexting but not all the time, every now and again. (Sunday mornings is a fave) It can be fun when you receive a text from a sext buddy just saying "horny?" Then a couple of hours fun ensues.

Just be a bit adventurous OP

CluelessWriter Tue 01-Sep-20 23:21:31

yeah I've done a bit of research since Saturday night blush and whatsapp seems to be a good one security wise.

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cantknowwhoiam Wed 02-Sep-20 13:18:08

Kik is good for anonymity, just create a profile, no numbers or anything. Can also block should you need to. The only downside is you can't delete any message that you've sent like you can on WhatsApp

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