Small penis

(24 Posts)
intuitutifed Thu 06-Aug-20 00:31:40

I recently started seeing someone new. We went further than we'd done before yesterday. I'd guess his flaccid willy when I saw it for the 1st time was 2 inches long. It obviously got bigger (probably 4.5 erect ?) but honestly I've never been with someone so tiny and I don't know if I can handle it. I feel really terrible writing this, it's not his fault but Id struggle to see how that'd be able to satisfy me.

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Namechangedyorkshire Thu 06-Aug-20 04:59:24

Isn't that just under the average of 5 inches? What size are you used to?

If it purely about willy size then move on now

intuitutifed Thu 06-Aug-20 05:43:56

Yes I guess you're right but it's also got little in the way of girth even when erect. Previously Ive had from 4 inches which didn't satisfy me to 6 or so which I loved especially when accompanied by thickness.

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Namechangedyorkshire Thu 06-Aug-20 07:28:56

Well...does he satisfy you in other ways...isn't all about willy size but I appreciate it is important? I suppose it depends on previous experience...my ex's were all different sizes and DH is definately the most well endowed whilst I'm fairly petite..I can't deny it is extremely fulfilling but also if we haven't DTD for a while I do need to acclimatise slowly.

Please don't mention it to him though as it will destroy his confidence and that's when guys then struggle to get erections at all!

Sparkybloke Thu 06-Aug-20 09:11:49

Male perspective...as namechange says don't mention it directly....might be worth checking he is not on medication as some can affect arousal....if he is not fully hard he may not have reached full potential IYKWIM. Health issues such as blood pressure or diabetes can also affect erections. If he is very overweight it can make him look smaller too....Would positions allowing deep penetration help?
At the end of the day he is just On the smaller side of the norm. You have to decide if all his other positives outweigh the slightly smaller than ideal for you size of his penis. If not then probably time to move on. If he ticks every other box then it's not always how big he is but How he uses it and how he pleases you in other ways that matters....😊 And as another recent thread suggests, having a huge penis is not always ideal either.....

Happyhusband Thu 06-Aug-20 09:40:34

Oh dear. Shallow attitude meets shallow cock. How ironic.

noego Thu 06-Aug-20 15:53:33

Its not the size its the intelligent arse behind it grin

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Happyhusband Thu 06-Aug-20 16:05:36

@no ego. Yes that sums it up. smile

ItsAllAFugazi Thu 06-Aug-20 16:12:53

Many bisexual people will you that it’s possible to have even better sex without any penis at all... so surely it’s workable?

Sacredspace Thu 06-Aug-20 16:16:23

You probably can’t do much about his size but you can yours. If you don’t already, do your pelvic floor exercises every day religiously. The NHS have a helpful ap, I think it’s called Squeezy. It really does make a difference.

Alonelonelyloner Thu 06-Aug-20 16:45:15

Many of my previous lovers were very large until I thought that was the norm. My DP is small and when not erect almost invisible. I was seriously concerned when we first had sex.
Once we got over first time nerves he had proved to be an incredible lover and he fits me somehow in a way no other man has and being smaller he seems to reach a special part of me that others must have been pushing past all the time and not stimulating because now I squirt and all sorts of weird things which I hadn't thought possible before.

Try and see. Explore. Penis size is important but it's technique and intimacy which really count.

intuitutifed Fri 07-Aug-20 17:25:36

I do of course agree that penis size is only one factor among many. Perhaps I just need to get more experience of smaller men.
Honestly I so so wish I did not feel this way. I feel terribly guilty for finding something He cannot change an obstacle to enjoying sex. If there were some way of knowing in advance what size men were, their partners wouldn't get into situations like this obviously.

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weareyoung Fri 07-Aug-20 18:59:27

I have recently discovered the absolute, breathtaking joy of a big penis having divorced exH (very small) and met DP (great length, but also girth).

I never thought size mattered until I realised that ex H just had to bang away relentlessly for me to even feel anything. I feel every inch of DP, no matter what position we're in. It's delicious and makes sex so, so much better.

Blokenamechangesexboard Fri 07-Aug-20 22:11:27

Sacredspace

You probably can’t do much about his size but you can yours. If you don’t already, do your pelvic floor exercises every day religiously. The NHS have a helpful ap, I think it’s called Squeezy. It really does make a difference.

It really does. DW was very disciplined with hers. At one time, she could actually squeeze me right out of her!

Blokenamechangesexboard Fri 07-Aug-20 22:14:12

I probably speak for a lot of men when I ask why cock size is at all important when we are told that the clitoris is where it's at.

notevenat20 Sat 08-Aug-20 07:24:55

Honestly OP, just accept you are not compatible and find yourself another man who is better endowed. Everyone has their preferences and there is no need to ashamed by yours.

You might in the future consider checking out how big a new man is before you get into a serious relationship. I am sure you can think of ways of doing that ;). I myself have a check at the first snog.

lebanon Sat 08-Aug-20 18:44:33

I probably speak for a lot of men when I ask why cock size is at all important when we are told that the clitoris is where it's at.

For me , the clitoris is only good for foreplay . I can easily have a clit orgasm . But nothing beats and satisfies me quite like having my g spot pounded with the force of a big dick .

wizzbangfizz Sat 08-Aug-20 18:56:59

I thought most people exchanged dick pics before the actual event these days so surely it shouldn't come as a surprise?!

Anotherblokelurking Mon 10-Aug-20 22:17:51

I wish I could remember the title but no, and I’ve been googling for ages - but there’s a movie where a woman puts it round that a guy has a small penis but when asked about it he says no, it’s her, she has a huge vagina! It’s funnier than it looks written down grin

wishfuldreamer Thu 13-Aug-20 16:15:52

@lebanon - i like both, but i definitely have an appreciation for my g-spot these days. my ex was a perfectly lovely normal size, and we had great sex. but with a current partner i have entirely different orgasms...not clitoral ones, but these slow build, strangely intense, muscle spasm orgasms that feel amazingly relaxing. i definitely think technic is as important as size though. another partner is more averagely sized, but is the only man who's ever made me come during penetration without my hands or something similar on my clit. it's something about the way he specifically moves (more back and forth along my body, rather than up and down/in and out, as it were) and it makes my knees turn to custard...

Blokenamechangesexboard Fri 14-Aug-20 00:59:40

Isn't that something called the Coital Alignment Technique?

(I try that from time to time but DW doesn't seem to enjoy herself more than normal. Maybe I've got a small cock!)

wishfuldreamer Fri 14-Aug-20 06:26:14

Ooo, I forgotten that phrases. I remember it being very de rigeur when I was at uni! Yes, I think it’s probably is something like that - though I don’t think it’s deliberate on his part - I think it’s just what’s felt good for him in the past.

PussGirl Fri 14-Aug-20 12:26:29

I had some of the best sex in my life in my late teens / early twenties with my then boyfriend, whose cock was about 4.5" long and not very thick. He was a great lover and very inventive. I learnt a hell of a lot!

It looked ridiculously out of proportion though, as he was 6'5" grin

FluffnAll234 Fri 14-Aug-20 20:04:10

I think if the guy was an attentive lover and we had a connection, then the fact the guy had a 4 and a half inch penis, wouldn’t be a make or break for me. There is more to a man than his penis size. I know of a guy who used to work in an office at my workplace, a colleague had slept with him and although she said his penis was very small, he was fantastic at foreplay.

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