Advice please

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isthisdoable Tue 30-Jun-20 16:52:36

Me and my DH have a fantasy that we want to fulfill. For a while now weve been exploring new things with sex. It's a huge fantasy of mine to watch my dh have sex with another woman. I've told him about it and he wasn't sure at first as he didn't think I was serious but now he's comfortable with it. Does anyone know how to go about finding someone? It would be a one off so that no emotional connection is formed. We'd also like to look into a possible threesome. I don't know if there's any apps or websites maybe? I literally have no idea where to start. Also if anyone has any experience with this I'd love to hear how it went for you smile

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SuperJan Tue 30-Jun-20 17:20:50

There is a far bigger demand for a single woman to join in a MFF threesome or 'shag my DH while I watch' than there are single women interested in being a "unicorn".

Is paying her an option? You've then got a very large choice and the guarantee that there's no emotional mess. (Almost guarantee, anyway. He needs to realise that she's there for the cash, and is not in the least bit interested in his sparkling personality or awesome sexual skills.)

If it's an option, ignore agencies, and look at women working independently. It should be easy to find someone who's interested (they will probably want to speak to you first) and who he fancies.

If it's not, you'll probably have to take who you can get. Swinging events are one option, when they restart, but someone may expect you to be available for sex too, unless you find a couple where he just wants to watch his DW/GF shagged by another man.

isthisdoable Tue 30-Jun-20 17:36:39

How do you find independent women compared to agencies? This is all new to me so I have no idea. Probably feel more comfortable with paying as opposed to meeting someone at an event purely on the basis of that emotional connection if that makes sense?

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SuperJan Tue 30-Jun-20 18:09:24

A search for "Independent escort (location)" is a start, adding anything else that you want to specify. They have reputations they want to protect, whereas agencies cater more for clients who don't really care who it is, so long as they look like this and are prepared to do that.

As well as people with their own websites, wide variety of directories exist, from the large (AW) to the specialist (BDSM, larger, local etc).

The saying is that you don't pay an escort for the sex, you pay them to go away again afterwards, so it makes total sense.

PinotPony Tue 30-Jun-20 21:53:17

Join Killing Kittens! There's lots of unicorns willing to play with couples plus you will get lots of helpful advice about the practicalities including how to treat your unicorn to make her feel special, open communication about rules and boundaries, and how to avoid jealousy or insecurities.

I hope you have a lovely filthy time!

SuperJan Tue 30-Jun-20 23:05:14

Not everyone can afford to spend £119 (the only price for an in-person event I can spot on the site) for one person's ticket to a party, of course.

Arnoldthecat Tue 30-Jun-20 23:07:38

Is it an issue where you source with OW from? Would it be a female that he chats up in a pub or other social setting or could it be an escort from adultwork for example?


Swingingsusie Wed 01-Jul-20 07:19:28

Look at adultwork for paid escorts.
Is your DH pretty attractive? I used to look for this and never found it but my dh was challenged in the traditional good looks category. Good luck !!

Natalialikes Wed 01-Jul-20 10:46:04

Well fabswingers is the go to place but you might struggle to find a single woman. They do exist but they are in such high demand that they can take their pick of who they play with. I tried a singles account and could get 100+ messages a day. Usually after posting a pic. It was overwhelming in the end so i deleted it and went back to our couples profile. Finding a like minded couple is a much more realistic prospect

PinotPony Wed 01-Jul-20 17:42:23

@SuperJan I assume you're not a KK member.

I wasn't suggesting to the OP that she go to a sex party. I was suggesting she join the group chats and meet people for advice and connections. It is a great opportunity to get to know couples and singles who are up for a bit of fun. Including unicorns looking for friendly couples.

How about we all stay in our own lanes before bashing each other's suggestions?! 🙄

PinotPony Wed 01-Jul-20 17:46:40

... and what is the going rate for a prostitute these days..?!

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