How to organise a 3-way?

(14 Posts)
Shizzlepit Mon 01-Jun-20 12:23:15

Me and DP have often talked about introducing another person into the bedroom to mix things up a bit. It’s a fantasy we both share and talk about during sex.
Where do you even start? Do you just go to a bar and think ‘oh she’s nice, let’s invite her back to ours!’? Or are there other ways of doing it? I feel a bit naive but I’m genuinely curious.
He’s male I’m female if that helps!

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sleepismysuperpower1 Mon 01-Jun-20 12:27:46

I haven't ever done it but there was a thread on here a while ago about a website called for things like this

xpc316e Mon 01-Jun-20 13:41:18

I was involved in a multiple male/1 female scene once. The married couple were very keen on these events and got a trusted male friend to organise them and hold them at his flat.

That meant that the men never had any phone contact with the couple, and did not know their address. Nobody was ever asked to turn up for a second event, so there was no chance of any emotional attachments being made. An advertisement was placed on a swingers' website and things progressed from there.

Happygolucky55 Mon 01-Jun-20 15:24:28

Me and my dh have done this - we used an app called Feeld. We were lucky enough to meet a single F 🦄 who was looking for a couple. Honestly we really were lucky. We’re all the same age and it’s gone well, we’re all happy. There’s quite a lot to think through in terms of boundaries and dynamics and I think you have to be a pretty solid couple. It’s bloody exciting!!

Shizzlepit Mon 01-Jun-20 16:07:37

I think this would only be a one off. Just a crazy night. We don’t want a permanent other woman!

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Happygolucky55 Mon 01-Jun-20 16:09:57

Me neither! We’ve met once so far and we’ll do it again but it won’t be permanent

NoBloodyFighting Mon 01-Jun-20 17:30:09

Could try fabswingers?


lmnoh Mon 01-Jun-20 18:24:30

There are probably other sites but I'm only familiar with Fabswingers.

Create a profile for you and DH, get photo verified and away you go.
Take a look at other couples profiles, and the people they meet via their verifications.

It will give a feel for the site if nothing else.

I know a "friend" who enjoys spending time with couples so PM if you have any questions x

PinotPony Mon 01-Jun-20 23:25:47

Could try Killing Kittens... lots of unicorns on there.
Really important to have clearly communicated boundaries and rules. A uniform friend of mine recently had a play date and, when the wife left to go to the toilet, the husband continued to play with my friend. Wife returned and was very upset as the couple had agreed in advance this should not happen. My friend felt terrible and really awkward but she'd done nothing wrong - nobody had informed her of this rule! She later realised it was a lack of respect in their relationship rather than an error by her.

msmith501 Tue 02-Jun-20 08:47:38

Use fabswingers. As well as a good selection of people to chat to and hopefully click with, there are adverts for club nights where you can go along and simply watch if you want and also lots of advice on rules, boundaries and getting the most out of the experience.

AverageGuy Tue 02-Jun-20 14:53:06

I'd be interested!
No Fabswingers club nights atm due to covid-19. No idea when (or indeed if) clubs will open again.

Obviously, you couldn't meet anyone from there yet, for the same reason.

cdtaylornats Wed 03-Jun-20 17:26:07

I was invited out of the blue in a pub. The main reason - I was about to leave town and it made me an ideal person for their first foray.

They asked me straight out and checked if I was okay being one of the two guys in the room.

Friday night through to Sunday afternoon. It was good, she was excited by the idea of two cocks at once, asked her boyfriend and I to perform with each other so that was new.

Never seen them again.

jaydereilly Wed 05-Aug-20 12:16:06

I've had two and neither was via an app - all in person. I enjoyed them, but found better with those that you don't really know rather than someone close.

SuperJan Wed 05-Aug-20 22:04:24

Pay. It guarantees no 'falling in love' headaches, and you get to pick who you want, rather than hoping someone picks you.

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