Why can’t men kiss well?

(12 Posts)
Ritascornershop Sat 16-May-20 05:58:06

It was like this with the last fella too, although he was trainable and learned to slow down. But in general, and I don’t think this is just me, I do not find it very sexy to feel like someone is doing a root canal with their tongue on me. I prefer a little kissing, the tip of a tongue exploring, maybe the occasional nibble. But just a tongue jutting in there? Nope. Do men not notice that the person they are kissing is moving at a different speed? This evening was exasperating. I left before it went any further.

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FortunesFave Sat 16-May-20 06:39:11

I don't think saying "men" in general can't kiss well is realistic. I've been with plenty of great kissers.

Ritascornershop Sat 16-May-20 06:47:03

Well, I’ve had very limited experience, but I’ve only had one man who was naturally a good kisser. I thought perhaps it was a slightly generalized problem.

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saleorbouy Sat 16-May-20 07:42:45

You're kissing the frogs princess! Go and find a prince sensitive to your needs.

PussGirl Sat 16-May-20 08:27:10

A good kisser is someone who kisses like you do, in my opinion.

There needs to be the right amount of tongue for your own preference. A lot or a little doesn't matter, as long as you are both enjoying it.

I have had the whole range over the years, from the full washing machine experience shock to the bloke who only opened his mouth a tiny bit and sort of pecked me confused

Quite a lot of tongue but not too much saliva is what I'd choose. Current DP gets it just right smile

Ritascornershop Sat 16-May-20 12:56:25

True enough Pussgirl! The thing I guess I’ve noticed is that the last two have been very full on and don’t seem to notice my style is different. I miss the one who adjusted to my speed!

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DrCoconut Sun 17-May-20 13:55:20

I have never actually experienced better kissing than my first boyfriend. We were young but he was really in tune with me and not at all pushy or forceful. He was an all round nice lad, our relationship didn't survive going away to uni though, like so many others.


See99 Tue 19-May-20 13:57:17

I suppose men could say the way they kiss is the right way and women get it wrong. I’ve always found men to want too much tongue in general for my liking.

IamAporcupine Wed 20-May-20 00:49:54

I tend to agree OP, but there are some good kissers too
And this just reminded me that there is nothing nicer than a gentle but firm in tune kiss...

Kaathesnake Mon 08-Jun-20 01:36:58

I must be lucky... my current DP is an amazing kisser, probably about the best person I’ve ever kissed in my life!! I just want to get naked every time we kiss😄
I do remember some horrors though... I had a boyfriend in the early 80s who was a bit ‘saliva blessed’ shall we say... he used to wipe his mouth on his sleeve and say ‘right then’ before he kissed me! Aarrgghhh!!
Another was so rough (unintentionally) that my mouth used to bleed!!
Then there were those that spat gum out before kissing - and those that didn’t bother...!!
Thank god for my Dp😁

borntohula Mon 08-Jun-20 11:00:10

Ooh but they can!

hunkyfunkymunky Wed 10-Jun-20 08:48:59

My GF say's I'm the best kisser ever and even told her mother that we kiss better than most couples make love!

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