Anal play

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Littlemix1 Tue 31-Mar-20 15:13:18

Hey so me and my partner are wanting to try new things in the bedroom. One of them being anal play both for me and him. Obviously we know the basics I.e use a lot of lube and start small etc. But can anyone suggest and toys / butt plugs that we can get to try with and maybe suggestions for if we enjoy it? Thanks

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xpc316e Tue 31-Mar-20 16:17:49

If you are interested in exploring anal play for your man, and more specifically prostate stimulation, there is no finer source of information than a site called

It majors on pegging, but is a fantastic place to find out about all things anal from the male perspective.

Littlemix1 Tue 31-Mar-20 16:52:29

Thank you very much.Well pegging is also something we are looking at trying at some point aswell so will certainly have a look on there for some ideas etc smile

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BlokeTarget Tue 31-Mar-20 20:36:06

You could start out with fingers - work up to maybe a small vibrator and then small/ Med butt plugs on each other.

If you both enjoy it - it could be so much fun!
It really turns me on my DP using toys or fingers on me. Love it!

Enjoy OP and have fun exploring each other smile

Littlemix1 Tue 31-Mar-20 21:11:21

@BlokeTarget thank you we are gonna start with fingers defo. Will have a look see what small vibes and butt plugs are out there then then work our way up. I hope we will enjoy it we are both very keen to try so hopefully that's a good sign. Thank you for your advice grin

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BlokeTarget Tue 31-Mar-20 21:29:06

@Littlemix1 no trouble at all smile

The previous advice of lots of lube / taking your time is a very true one: have fun you two grin

xpc316e Wed 01-Apr-20 11:04:24

Another top tip is to always use a butt plug with a really pronounced, flared base. You really do not want to be one of those embarrassing A&E statistics.

For the same reason, you need to be very careful with vibrators. If we use a vibrator, we first insert a butt plug and then apply the vibe to the plug. That enables the vibrations to be felt deep inside without having to insert the vibrator itself.


Littlemix1 Thu 02-Apr-20 08:28:17

@xpc316e thank you very much shall certainly invest in something like that and take on board your comments re vibrator. Certainly don't want any trips to A&E grin

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Jane1978xx Fri 03-Apr-20 23:17:58

My bf and I did this recently and it went well. Have a look at strapless strapons and it will be good for both of you. If you want to pm me I can send the link to what we use and it’s amazing

xpc316e Sat 04-Apr-20 12:05:28

Jane1978xx, if you have successfully used a 'strapless' strap-on then good for you, but they work for only a small percentage of users. There is simply no guarantee of success with them. Ruby Ryder's website, Pegging Paradise, goes into much more detail about them. She is a mine of information and runs webinars. I thoroughly recommend anyone with an interest in pegging to check out her podcasts, especially the famous episode 112.

Jane1978xx Sat 04-Apr-20 15:04:15

I was only saying what I had done personally.

xpc316e Sat 04-Apr-20 15:25:09

Jane1978xx I was not having a go at you, and I know that you were only telling us what had worked for you. However, strapless strap-ons are marketed as being something that for the vast majority of users does not work. It is easy to buy them and find they are less than wonderful, so I am advising people to be wary of them - but I am glad that yours worked for you.

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