I’ve been with my dp for 2 years. He’s 18 years older than me. I absolutely adore him, he is so kind and does so much for me and my dc (practically not financially). We are fairly affectionate and cuddle quite a lot.
However, our sex life is quite dire. It happens very rarely, and when it does it’s pretty mediocre. He’s not a great kisser. He has health problems and often doesn’t feel well enough for sex. He also has to take viagra due to his age so that rules out any spontaneity.
I do still fancy him, and I love him so much. But I’m in my thirties and our relationship is more like (very happy) companionship rather than a passionate one.
It’s got to the point where if he does try to instigate things I don’t actually want to do it. Everything else is great but we are definitely lacking sexual chemistry and it’s starting to be an issue for me.
Is there any coming back from this? There was one morning recently where he asked for a blow job and I just didn’t want to do it, which worried me as it made me really think about how I’ve lost interest in him sexually. He knew something was up and I tried to explain what I was feeling but I didn’t do a very good job of it. Now we’re in a weird no man’s land where we don’t know if we’re together or not. I feel like if I do stay with him
I’m sacrificing ever having a fulfilling sex life again, but the thought of not being with him is horrible.
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MayDayHelp · 25/12/2019 03:19
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