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Is this fixable and, if so, where do I start?!(3 Posts)
DH and have been married for 12 years. We have a 4yo and 2.5yo. He snores terribly so for as long as I can remember, we’d go to bed together then I’d move into the spare room when the snoring got too much.
When both children were born, I’d have the Moses basket in the spare room with me so his snoring didn’t disturb them/they didn’t disturb him (his snoring is worse when he’s falling asleep so less disturbances means less noise!).
The problem is that, despite both children now being in their own rooms, we both still go to our separate rooms to sleep (my choice because I can’t stand the thought of broken sleep anymore...or at least no more broken that our 2.5yo’s nightly wanderings!). We’ve got no sex life. If we’ve had sex at all in the last year I’d be amazed.
I’ve let myself go. In fact we both have and I’m ashamed to say that I find him less attractive (although I’d never say anything - I love him).
So how do we get back in track? I can’t stand the thought of it being like this for the next 40 years and I’d hate to think that either of our children would grow up thinking that this is what you settle for 🙁 x
He needs to see the doctor about his snoring. There's a lot of ways in which it can be fixed.
Is he overweight? Are you? You could both do couch to 5k. Doing it together would bond you.
I'm sure he feels the same way regarding the sex but too embarrassed to bring it up. Open up to him and tell him you miss the intimacy and sex, I'm sure he'd jump at the chance of reviving your sex life.