(8 Posts)
Hadenoughofitall441 Sun 15-Dec-19 22:25:14

Due to lifelong medical condition my libido is often on the down, it’s got worse after having kids, so every night without fail DP tries it on, and due to low libido I haven’t been feeling it. Today I’ve been in the mood literally all day and tonight he’s not even tried it on and fallen asleep already. Now it’s the first time in a while I’ve felt like this and I’m due on in a few days so won’t be able to do it soon. Sod’s law, anyone else had unbalanced sex lives 😬

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Alanis126 Sun 15-Dec-19 22:38:00

I'm sure almost no-one is always in sync. You could consider waking him....

OneToThree Mon 16-Dec-19 07:30:30

Why didn’t you tell him during the day or come on to him in the evening?

NameChangeNugget Mon 16-Dec-19 14:24:42

You should have said something.

He’s not a mind reader and will probably stop trying eventually

Hadenoughofitall441 Mon 16-Dec-19 22:58:38

I didn’t tell him during the day because I didn’t want to get his hopes up incase I wasn’t in the mood but the time I went to bed.

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Hadenoughofitall441 Mon 16-Dec-19 22:59:04

Turns out h3 took a sleeping tablet so explains a lot

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lovesmarties Tue 17-Dec-19 10:58:18

My wife told me once that, once she starts to have sex, she gets into it. (A previous ex told me exactly the same thing.) Despite having said this, her default position remained "I need to feel in the mood before we start." This might mean no sex for a fortnight or so at a time. That might be absolutely fine for some people, but not for me. To save the marriage, my wife and I agreed to schedule sex for Saturday nights. I'd like more (much more - every night!), but this is the minimum I'm prepared to accept. It just about works for us. She has never, ever said "please let's stop, I've decided I don't want to do this." If she did, I would of course stop.


Spritesobright Tue 17-Dec-19 22:48:36

I think that's good advice above. Have you tried "doing it anyways" despite not really feeling it to start off and then seeing how it goes?

My boyfriend and I have a very active sex life. But rarely do I feel "lustful" and want to jump him without some initial kissing/cuddling.
Usually we start off cuddling with the understanding that it won't necessarily lead to sex.

But once we start kissing and caressing I can't stop.

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