Right I have 4 kids, one who is disabled and hard work. For the past few years my sex drive has been so low that even when I have done it, to keep him happy, in my head I'm just trying to get it over with as quick as possible, pretending to be satisfied so he will hurry up and finish.
He has a rather small penis which doesn't help, and makes positions difficult so it became very boring and repetitive. But he is good at foreplay so I can't really complain. He can satisfy me with his fingers or tongue and it's good.
I originally thought my marina coil was to blame for the lack of sex drive. However I've had it removed almost a year ago and if anything it's worse not better. I can't even be bothered to masturbate anymore, something I used to do a lot. Sometimes I start and then can't be bothered so stop - this is very recent.
I used to also put it down to being tired, which I am. But the kids have all now started school and I feel like i really should have the energy to have sex. I'm not working.
I am overweight and suffer from depression and definitely self loathing and lack of self care. I think this is a huge part of it but I don't know where to start. The depression is controlled with meds. I try to loose weight but often find myself gaining due to eating the wrong foods - I go round in circles and the depression causes the binge eating and then the weight makes me feel more depressed and low energy.
Anyway I'm not sure what I'm hoping to get out of this post but just wanted to get it off my chest. So thank you to anybody who has read this far.
I worry my partner will eventually be tempted to get it else where. He is a good man and I trust him, but he has a high sex drive and I'm aware I'm not meeting his sexual needs.
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Help! I have zero sex drive!
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MummySharkDoodoododoo · 04/12/2019 12:47
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