Is there such thing as ‘too big’?

(16 Posts)
Eyesandteeth Wed 20-Nov-19 19:09:10

Can’t believe I’m actually putting this on the internet!
Met a guy. He’s lovely. He has interest in Dom. Something I’ve never really looked into but I’m pretty open-minded...
Anyway, I’ve just discovered he’s very well endowed! Like 9 inches and thick. I’m terrified! I’m a petite, slim 5’2 and, even though I’ve had a couple of kids, everything is still quite tidy down there.
How do I get around this without needing to go to A&E afterwards?!

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BillHadersNewWife Wed 20-Nov-19 20:28:58

I think there is. I have read that the vagina can accommodate any size and all that but my DH is huge and it's honestly been an issue for us.

Exes have been much less well endowed and I never had trouble.

Eyesandteeth Thu 21-Nov-19 09:44:55

Ugh. Not what I needed to hear! Haha

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Namechangedyorkshire Thu 21-Nov-19 10:12:10

Yes, well there can be an issue of being too big, when you combine male size with female size.

Being worried about it won't help. An ex of mine was pretty well endowed as well and I'm like you, fairly neat and petite down below. The answer is to take things very slowly, loads of foreplay so you are very aroused. Him giving you oral helps and not for everyone but I'm waxed below which helps, especially with natural or added lube.

Tell him you want to go slow, and better if you start on top so you are in control and do decide at the pace and depth he goes inside you. When more relaxed, I found him taking me from behind was amazing as the length really worked and hit the right parts (sorry TMI]

What you will find is that you will stretch to accommodate, although maybe not the full length but what I found was that if we didn't have sex for a while I had shrunk back a bit so had to take it easy again.

There were positive aspects as it did feel good as long as he didn't get over enthusiastic.

BillHadersNewWife Thu 21-Nov-19 10:49:05

How on earth does being waxed "help" ??? It doesn't.

Namechangedyorkshire Thu 21-Nov-19 13:02:26

If using lube, which she will prob need to do it works better not getting matted into a load of hair and then feeling self conscious. Was just my experience albeit a few years ago

BillHadersNewWife Thu 21-Nov-19 13:51:54

No. Pubic hair is actually useful during sex. And if you feel self conscious about it getting into your hair, then that's a problem...not the matted hair..but your self image.


Arnoldthecat Thu 21-Nov-19 17:58:23

As a male i find that pubic hair can be a bit intrusive sometimes as its like taking a brillo pad to my,,err,,member !

onemorerose Thu 21-Nov-19 22:53:48

Wtf Arnold? A woman’s natural pubic hair is like a Brillo pad to your member? Give your head a wobble please.
And @BillHadersNewWife I’m genuinely curious as to why pubic hair is useful during sex?

BillHadersNewWife Fri 22-Nov-19 00:13:17

Arnold maybe your "member" is over sensitive.

Rose the skin in the genital area is extremely delicate. Pubic hair acts as a buffer...reduces the chance of damage to the female genitalia and the friction it provides is also on hair is more comfortable. I mean...does Arnold shave his area? Or is he just rubbing his pubes against a bald woman? Nice...I don't think.

It also reduced the chance of eyelashes do.

StarlightLady Fri 22-Nov-19 06:21:47

It’s all about skill and style. Very large can feel quite uncomfortable inside. Particularly if you are with someone who thinks sex is all about pounding and forgets you have a cervix. With someone who is skilful, plenty of oral first and someon who takes their time is a different story.

Being totally hair free can increase sensitivity, particularly during oral, but l think that is very much a different issue.

busybarbara Fri 22-Nov-19 23:33:49

Him giving you oral helps and not for everyone but I'm waxed below which helps

For all those confused by this it sounds like they meant being waxed means you’re more likely to get prolonged oral than if it’s a forest

devonbex Tue 03-Dec-19 09:13:02

OMG, this post is bringing back memories. When I was in my late teens a mutual friend set me up on a blind date with a professional rugby player. We were a mismatch in every way, he was boring and talked about himself all night, and he was a huge bear of a man and I am only tiny. At the end of the evening I made the discovery that he was extremely well hung. Being a rugby player he had loads of stamina and was not exactly gentle with me. The next day I was in agony and could barely walk and had to phone in to work sick. I was bruised and sore for days.

lilgreen Tue 03-Dec-19 22:07:34

If he was boring and talked about himself all night, why did you sleep with him????confused

LotteLupin Sat 07-Dec-19 07:41:14

Yes there totally is too big. But it's a preferable scenario to too small.

Go steady ... !

Ringdonna Tue 10-Dec-19 15:46:48

Painful if you take it up the chocolate highway.

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