To ask if any other woman is only able to come once?

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BloodSugar Mon 30-Sep-19 08:45:49

Name changed for obvious reasons.

In my youth, and I means teens, I have a memory of coming twice a few times but my whole adult life I've felt very much 'like a bloke' in the sense that I come once and once I do I lose interest in continuing sex.

I don't see it as a bad thing as my partner is great and we have a lot of foreplay before PIV and it always hits the spot so to speak.

So it's not an issue.

I was just wondering if anyone else is like this.

I read so much of women constantly having multiple orgasms and wonder why I'm not like that.

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Cautionsharpblade Mon 30-Sep-19 08:51:33

I only ever come once masturbating, then it feels like it’s over. I’ll come several times during sex though.

Osirus Mon 30-Sep-19 08:53:16

I can occasionally go a second time but I need a short break in between.

Woodlandwitch Mon 30-Sep-19 09:08:59

I’ve always been that way.
Other than on one very rare occasion that I remember but never before and never since

Damntheman Mon 30-Sep-19 09:10:14

Same as you OP. I often become overly sensitive and ticklish after so more foreplay is just not going to work. It's happened a few times that I've come more than once, but it's pretty rare.

Fizzypoo Mon 30-Sep-19 09:11:21

Why don't you put this in the sex topic? Why is it in AIBU and why are you asking others about their sex life like this? It's a bit weird.

BloodSugar Mon 30-Sep-19 09:15:14

I'm not asking about anyone's sex life.

I'm not asking for details.
Just a question about biological anatomy.

Perhaps the female body is just over glorified as this multiple orgasm machine in the media and I've bought I to that too much and am feeling a little inadequate?

I guess I wanted reassurance that I am still within the wide spectrum of 'normal' and not disfunctional.

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Rachelover60 Mon 30-Sep-19 09:17:22

Once in a year :-) ?

It is possible to come twice, maybe more, but with an interval. However it sounds like you have a very good sex life which is great.

Some people say multiple orgasm when what they mean is a lot of spasms at orgasm. They do vary, some last longer than others.

RuffleCrow Mon 30-Sep-19 09:20:40

I think it's all about your state of mind. Generally just once for me.

BloodSugar Mon 30-Sep-19 09:22:55

On reflection this probably isn't the most appropriate topic to post but I didn't think people were still so uptight over the word orgasm that it would cause offence 🙄

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LaMarschallin Mon 30-Sep-19 09:33:57

I guess I wanted reassurance that I am still within the wide spectrum of 'normal' and not disfunctional.

I don't intend to discuss my sex life here, not because because I'm "uptight over the word orgasm"*, but because I feel it's only my and one other very lucky person's business smile

However, I think it's only in various sorts of fiction and porn that all women are perceived as having frequent multiple orgasms.
Maybe change your reading matter?

*Although I don't like it used as a verb for some reason. "I orgasmed" rather than "I came" sounds odd and awkward to say to me.
That's about as far as I'll go in discussing my sex life/preferences smile

Fizzypoo Mon 30-Sep-19 09:59:28

It's not offensive. Its troll like. I imagine you wanking over this post right now 🤢

BloodSugar Mon 30-Sep-19 10:01:04


Oh my gosh. You have a very strange way of thinking.

Christ. I'm a mother of 5 sat with my dog on my knee watching bake off on catch up 😂😂

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BloodSugar Mon 30-Sep-19 10:02:58

What exactly on this thread is wank fodder in your eyes?

The word orgasm? Surely if I was a pervert I would be off somewhere watching porn not asking a mundane question with absolutely no details or lurid descriptions confused

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BloodSugar Mon 30-Sep-19 10:04:24

I'm actually going to hide this thread now. I'm not in the mood to be called a troll yawn

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MysweetAudrina Mon 30-Sep-19 10:05:10

Yeah once for me too. It normally takes me a day or two to recharge also.

Thegullfromhull Mon 30-Sep-19 10:14:11

My god
A woman can’t ask a simple question without being accused of being a troll.
Troll hunting isn’t allowed on mumsnet.
Sex makes the world go round. Everybody does it. Sex sex sex sex sex . Orgasm orgasm. There I said it.
Now come and wank on my post, all you perverts.

Woodlandwitch Mon 30-Sep-19 10:15:24

Most random post I’ve seen ever @Fizzypoohmm

GeneHuntLover Mon 30-Sep-19 10:16:32

It would be better in the sex topic though

TheQueef Mon 30-Sep-19 10:19:25

The sex topic is better for sex topics because you have to been a mnet member for a time it stops wankers registering and starting a frap thread.
If it's in sex then the responses are better.

Thegullfromhull Mon 30-Sep-19 10:22:25

People can actually be wanking over your posts from afar regardless of which topic you post in.
If you post in style with a pic of your shoes you may have thousands of foot fetishers having a wanking party somewhere. You just don’t know.

GaudyNight Mon 30-Sep-19 10:23:48

On reflection this probably isn't the most appropriate topic to post but I didn't think people were still so uptight over the word orgasm that it would cause offence

It doesn't cause offence, but there is a long history of people asking apparently 'innocent' questions for information which are essentially a way of getting women to provide details of their own sexual experience -- for whatever ends. See also posts on toilet training, whether your parents' spanked you etc.

BloodSugar Mon 30-Sep-19 10:33:03

So another thing men have ruined for women?

We can't even post on a mums support board about anything slightly intimate because there's a load of wanking trolls about to spoil it.


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Waspnest Mon 30-Sep-19 10:34:09

There is presumably a reason why MN only allow posts on the SEX topic by people who've been regular site users for at least 90 days. So I think it's pretty reasonable to be suspicious of someone posting about sex with no very little posting history. Many of us are aware of the teenage girl/periods, toddler potty training trolls and these days I'm far more cautious about commenting on these very personal types of thread (especially when they appear on AIBU).

BloodSugar Mon 30-Sep-19 10:35:36

Wasps. I've been here for 14 years. Under one name or another.

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