Why do men like this

[Nchangedwoman]

Name changed for this!

I've recently had an experience with a great guy.. he was enjoying going down on me. Felt great until he starts getting his fingers involved...

Please don't get me wrong... it does feel great for us woman having the odd one or two but not when we have 3 or 4 fingers inside of us, what's the deal with this?!

Does it feel good for them? Some sort of turn on?

At one point I thought he was trying to get his whole arm inside me !!

Any experience with this? x

[xpc316e]

My current partner can take no more than two fingers inside her (and very much enjoys manual stimulation), but I have had sexual partners who have been more than happy to have four fingers inserted. We are all individuals and the mistake your man is making is assuming that because in the past some women have enjoyed being stretched, then you will also get off on that. You need to gently steer him in the right direction if you think he is worth retraining, or dump him if you reckon he's not a keeper - your choice.

[Sparkybloke]

Noooo....one finger or two at most....my partner loves a bit of finger work but just that....a finger to get things going before the main event!

[busybarbara]

It's because the numeric side of his brain is overriding the commonsense part. To a man if you find one finger nicer than none and two nicer than one... well surely three or four must be even better! This is also why men will end up drinking ten plus pints.

[MisterT373]

Sounds like hes working his way up to deliver a fisting.

[StarlightLady]

It’s because many can’t see beyond insertion and need satnav to find the clitoris.

[ADUTT7]

You just need to tell him and surely it will stop.

[Arnoldthecat]

They've been watching too much porn and think women enjoy having a fist rammed up them like a scene from All creatures great and small. I guess some do...

[CrazySnakeLady]

Some people like the feel of being stretched, the more fingers the merrier! And some men get off on watching a woman stretching. Different strokes for different folks. If you don't like it just tell him, communication is key to great sex.

[Joey7t8]

Chances are his previous partner like it - it’s not uncommon. Just need to tell him it’s not for you.

[Janie143]

I love it but we're all different Just tell him if you don't like it

[Fucksandflowers]

I HATE fingers inside me!
Thankfully I think DH can read me and virtually never tries it anymore.

[burnttoastandjam]

I love 3/4 fingers.

Talk to him about your preferences

[Divebar]

Some men are unaware that lots of women can’t have vaginal orgasms. Probably not helped by porn to be honest. Next time he does it wriggle away and shout “ Oi no! As you were “

[TemporaryPermanent]

There is nothing - nothing - in sex that isn't liked by anybody. It's easy to think you're either vanilla or kinky, and if you're vanilla then you like what everyone likes. So wrong. Your sexuality and your body are wonderfully unique. Dont make him guess. Tell him. You could order him, beg him, text him... whatever you both find hot.

[Malesingleparent]

Each person is different with regards to their sexual needs. What I find amusing and yet very annoying at the same time is whenever someone posts a thread about sexual behaviour they do not appreciate, there is always a few posters that think it's due to too much porn. Personally I don't understand the correlation between using 4 fingers to stimulate a woman and watching any porn nevermind too much.
When I was in my late teens their was a girl in my social circle who loved 4 fingers up her. We nicknamed her KitKat. There was no online porn back then at all.
OP just tell your partner to use 1 or 2 fingers so you can feel the whole expertise of his oral technique he should not be offended

[Oldrockman]

I would think there is a strong chance that a previous partner may have liked that sort of thing. From the few women I have been with, they all wanted different things. Talk to him, be honest about your wants and desires, though you can somewhat tell by peoples reactions its worth talking about both of your desires and boundaries. Especially the latter, where this is seeming to cross.

[DragonNoodleCake]

Oh I hate fingers!! I just tell partners, that nope it's not for me. My best friend loves it apparently. We are just all different.

[AloneLonelyLoner]

I love a whole hand if possible! It does freak my partner out though so I rarely get it! Boooooo

[1forAll74]

When I was young ha ha, like flighty and desirable and a girl from the 60 era, I had lots of men so to speak, and I don't ever remember any finger stuff as such, like a lot of fingers. The only fingers that people talked about, were Cadbury's chocolate fingers ha ha.

I was thinking that this big ,and many finger issue,was a thing of modern times, as in,people talk about it, and then they all wan't to do it, and get in on the act, and obviously lots enjoy it ha ha

[Windydaysuponus]

Maybe he had farming ambitions??

[Tiger785]

I only insert what my partner wants. Always start with 1 then 2. If she wants more I will though that's rare. Let him know that 2 is enough.

[SimplySteveRedux]

It’s because many can’t see beyond insertion and need satnav to find the clitoris.



It's different every time and factors such as stress, tiredness, wetness, wants etc all come (ahem) into it. DP enjoys squirting via G/A/P spot stimulation, but it still only takes two fingers (and a tongue).

As always, communication is everything with sex.

[yellowallpaper]

I think it's a man thing, I never found more than 2 enjoyable.

[Namechangedyorkshire]

I love having a finger inside me, and enjoy DH doing it and playing with my cervix. If I'm really turned on then he will progress to two fingers but any more is too much and not comfortable

[DrFoxtrot]

One or two fingers aren't enough for some people. Everyone likes different things, tell him what you like.