Concern about age gap

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Oldrockman Wed 25-Sep-19 14:18:28

A good friend lost his wife who was 15 years his senior, so big age gaps can be no issue. They had been married for 20+ years when she passed.

IronNeonClasp Wed 25-Sep-19 04:18:49

I'm 46 next month seeing a 32YO and it's worked for 4m. Physically is getting better and better. Not sure where we're going - but it works for now. Just go for it - you must ! grin

somewhatolder Mon 02-Sep-19 21:00:35

Thanks all, I’ll take your kind advice. Being happy and living in the moment sounds good to me!

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xpc316e Mon 02-Sep-19 14:20:05

I spent 15 years of my life married to a partner who was 15 years older than I was. The age gap made no difference at all to me. We eventually split because of her jealousy and chronic insecurity brought on by the incorrect belief that I would find a younger woman and run off with her.

I would say that you need to do whatever makes you happy and live in the moment.

MarieG10 Mon 02-Sep-19 07:51:43

Good for you. Get in and enjoy it. Just be ready for some new experiences 😉

StarlightLady Mon 02-Sep-19 04:41:43

If you are looking for something passionate and physical where long term does not come into the equation, go for it and enjoy.

Be safe, you may be post pregnancy risk, but condom, condom, condom.

somewhatolder Sun 01-Sep-19 21:33:58

Thanks, barbara, that’s pretty much what I wanted to hear, don’t really know why I was bothered about it.

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busybarbara Sun 01-Sep-19 11:58:31

It sounds like this is going to be primarily a physical relationship and ignorance is sometimes bliss, for both sides! Don't lie if he asks but you don't need to be showing him your bus pass! Enjoy it if it happens, he's attracted to you as you are, not your vital statistics

somewhatolder Sun 01-Sep-19 09:49:57

Posting in Sex rather than Relationships because that’s really my concern.
I’m in my mid 60s but don’t look it. Facially I appear 7-10 years younger (well, in the right light) and my body looks at least as good as it did 20 years ago - I’m fit, flexible from sports I used to do, and healthy - go to the gym twice a week. ATM I’m rather too involved with a much younger colleague - not sure exactly how much younger but guess 25 years. We spend rather a lot of time together and both have made feelings plain (me with a lot of embarrassment, he doesn’t seem to even consider the age difference). Decided that we would remain just friends for a whole load of reasons, but realistically it’s going to get physical at some point, and I know it’s going to be good. I’ve never been concerned about age difference before but am now, FGS I’m a pensioner! It’s possible he doesn’t actually know how much older I am and when I brought the subject up before, he brushed it aside. So I suppose I’m looking for reassurance that as far as sex is concerned, the age difference isn’t ridiculous ( I know if I were male and he female it wouldn’t be an issue).

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