Im crap at on top

(28 Posts)
MerryXmasNoelle Mon 26-Aug-19 15:40:29

Anyone else? im just crap at it

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xpc316e Mon 26-Aug-19 16:51:57

Nobody ever got better at anything without practising.

NameChangeNugget Mon 26-Aug-19 18:20:41

Have you tried reverse cowgirl? Is that the same

MerryXmasNoelle Mon 26-Aug-19 18:26:20

i just need some tips lol i can't get into the rhythm

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mrsc1987 Mon 26-Aug-19 19:26:51

I have this problem too, i try but i just feel like i cant get any rhythm going as my husband likes it quite fast, tried reverse and i felt like i did it a little better but having my fat ass facing him made me a bit paranoid. Guess we have to just keep trying!

StarlightLady Mon 26-Aug-19 19:54:47

I prefer it, because l can control the movements. But listen, we are not all the same, if it’s not for you, move on, you are not going through a check list.

Aleesha1 Tue 27-Aug-19 05:54:21

I feel rubbish too at this just because I feel my movement is too slow and ungainly!


MisterT373 Tue 27-Aug-19 08:55:24


You're never going to be judged on grace or style while DTD

It isnt Olympic Gymnastics

wendywoopywoo222 Tue 27-Aug-19 09:44:06

Top tip from me is to get selfish and concentrate on what feels good for you then you will find your own natural rhythm. I spent too many years trying to please my husband who just wanted it hard and fast then met a real considerate lover who liked to take things really slow. Now if Im
On top I take it at my pace and the getting faster does come naturally when your properly turned on.

OneToThree Tue 27-Aug-19 12:03:00

Get him to sit up facing you then you can put your arms around him and you’ve got something to hold on to while you grind him.

Viviene Tue 27-Aug-19 17:35:22

Me too.

TextbookCase Tue 27-Aug-19 23:43:05

I think some people are naturally a better match for this than others.

Honeyroar Wed 28-Aug-19 02:10:56

Me too. It's never done anything for me with any man, whatever angle I'm at or way I'm facing!

Clappingforjoy Wed 28-Aug-19 16:07:11

I hate it get nothing from it but then again I'm too fat and worry I am hurting him

greyspottedgoose Wed 28-Aug-19 21:36:54

My oh is convinced I'm just lazy but I seriously can't get a rhythm

Changedittoday Fri 30-Aug-19 20:16:08

This is me , I feel shit at it and my fat belly slaps make noises 😭 I feel like I'm being lazy and selfish but I really can't do it

mc15 Sun 01-Sep-19 18:53:28

@MerryXmasNoelle try spelling pineapple while on top

ADUTT7 Tue 03-Sep-19 08:46:22

Men like this position as they get close up eye contact with your boobs. However, it doesn’t always work well and it’s not one of my favourites

AMAM8916 Tue 03-Sep-19 18:37:49

I would say a good tip is to go up and down like bouncing rather than grinding forwards and backwards. Also, tuck your feet under his legs to keep a firm position

Dinks66 Sun 08-Sep-19 22:47:00

I would never get on top, used to worry about all sorts of things. Plus, I have big boobs and was embarrassed by them swinging about. But then one day I thought fk it. Got on top, closed my eyes, moved backwards and forwards until I found what felt good and I've been practising ever since. I absolutely love being on top now, I can control what I feel and have many orgasms this way. Keep practising as it's completely amazing! I've not found a man who didn't like a woman riding him.

Banquo54 Mon 09-Sep-19 23:05:55

Sounds to me like many think that ‘on top’ means upright and that’s causing problems. For my wife and I it was usually her lying on top of me and moving her hips to get the best feeling FOR HER. Sometimes that meant just grinding against me without PIV, so basically she was just using me as a live masturbation aid, often with spectacular results . Not that I’d just be lying there, doing nothing. I could be stroking her back or squeezing her bum, or just thrusting to try to match her rhythm. As it happened, it gave me a great deal of pleasure too.

Dieu Wed 11-Sep-19 17:39:55

I don't like it either, and I'm a fattie too. Give me doggy any day of the week. I love it!

crazychemist Sat 21-Sep-19 00:18:50

No good at it how? You don’t enjoy it, or OH doesn’t? I find I can either please myself or him, but not both at the same time! The angle just isn’t right for me. Or is it just keeping it up for a long time? I find it almost impossible to get DH to come that way unless he’s already quite far along before I start, it’s just too hard work!

DragonNoodleCake Sat 21-Sep-19 08:53:58

Try sitting him up, his back against the headboard. Lots of eye contact, his hands can do lots and he can help with pace. Just relax and do what feels good. You'll then figure out between you a pace that works.

MrsElizabethShelby Sat 21-Sep-19 16:22:24

What helped me practice was a grab rail installed above the headboard for balance 😉

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