Just that really ... Been together 2 years, I really do love this man, but sex is really getting me down.
He will literally pound hard and fast, literally like I'm not even a person  there's no stimulation, no gentle embrace, or any embrace for that matter, he'll either just pound away or if I'm on top trying to slow him down, he grabs hold my hips and literally rags me back and fourth within an inch of my life!! ... All the while in absolute silence on his part! Not a peep! I don't even know when he ejaculates! ... I've brought it up before & he got so defensive & upset I had to let it go! ... I get so sore and I'm so unsatisfied, the frustration is driving me insane!!! ... Anyone else been in this situation or similar 
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My fast & furious, silent, jackhammer sex life ......
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SunSeaLust · 08/08/2019 23:01
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StarlightLady ·
09/08/2019 06:36
Of course it’s not right. Sadly, and this is evident on here from time to time, some men think pounding is the name of the game.
Can you communicate well outside of the bedroom? It’s important to explain that his “method” is uncomfortable and making you particularly sore. Make sure you are receiving plenty of oral first too.
When this is happening request “slow down, slower, slower”, also suggest to him that you both share some oral only sessions.
Good luck 
SunSeaLust ·
09/08/2019 20:42
Its been this way for 2 years but only now I realise this isn't right! He's gone out with work boys tonight and will stay at his Grandads as it's closer to where they drink than home and I feel so relieved as I can have a night off!! 
Thank you & I'm sorry you're going through the same! I wouldn't wish it upon anyone, he's so loving with his words and the way he is with me, then turns into this robotic, silent almost cold jackhammer during sex!! I couldn't even say if he enjoys it slow as we've NEVER done it!!
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Jason118 ·
10/08/2019 11:48
Bloody hell there's some incredibly selfish men out there. What you describe isn't making love it's more love me an assault. So sorry for your predicament. Maybe just say no to him for a while, perhaps an unexpected outbreak of thrush might give him some pause for thought? Gentleness can be sexy too, tell him 
Hidingtonothing ·
11/08/2019 00:45
that's clearly a display of how little he really thinks of me or values our relationship.
No, it's a display of how he's a total arsehole, and you deserve a whole lot better
SunSeaLust ·
12/08/2019 12:59
No he's not seen the thread. I wrote it while he was at work and he went out straight from work Friday & not been home or in contact since
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SunSeaLust ·
13/08/2019 15:36
He's FINALLY unblocked me and made contact after I went to his Grandads house (where he's been staying/hiding) this morning (he was in work) ... He's coming round tomorrow night to "talk" what an absolute cheek! After not a word since Friday, his bags will be packed and on the door step tomorrow evening 
Thank you again for taking the time to comment on my original post! I don't have many people around me that I can talk to so it's much appreciated x
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