How to...ahem...make it last longer

(8 Posts)
MariaVonBratt Sun 04-Aug-19 14:15:56

I have a lovely partner with a low libido and as it stands we maybe only dtd about once a month. I'm not unhappy with this as he's a great guy and when we do get down to it it's very good. Therein lies the problem...because it's so good and because I'm usually a big ball of sexual frustration by this point I tend to get a bit carried away and reach the finishing line quite quickly. I know it's usually the man who has this problem! After waiting for so long I want to make our sessions last a bit longer and once I've popped my cork so to speak I tend to lose interest a bit. Any tips on how to control this and prolong the sesh?

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SkinnyPete Sun 04-Aug-19 16:13:14

Try and push past the first orgasm onto the second.

MariaVonBratt Sun 04-Aug-19 17:19:35

Yes that would be a good option but it takes me a while to get going again!

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noego Sun 04-Aug-19 19:51:10

He needs to keep you on the edge, Teach him how.

Joey7t8 Mon 05-Aug-19 10:34:58

Maybe buy a vibrator and relieve the pressure yourself every couple of days?

Viagra works very well for men in being able to to carry on to have further orgasms in the same session without even losing an erection. Maybe it would work for women as well?

It does however sound like you have a severely mismatched sexual drive and compatibility, which must be incredibly frustrating! How old is your partner, as such a low drive can have underlying causes?

MariaVonBratt Mon 05-Aug-19 13:45:26

He is 15 years my senior - I'm approaching 35 and he's 50. So yes age could be a factor. Sex isn't hugely important to me - as in it's not a dealbreaker that we have mismatched libido - but it would be nice to have it slightly more! We communicate well about his lower drive and he's always been honest about it.

Yeah maybe a bit of self entertainment would help ease the pressure before the real thing!

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SirGawain Mon 05-Aug-19 18:59:58

Maybe it would work for women as well?
It doesn’t!


TemporaryPermanent Mon 05-Aug-19 20:16:44

Are there things you enjoy but which don't make you come? Do those a lot!

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