Tips to feel more sexual after having babies.

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Lizbiz89 Tue 02-Jul-19 13:39:06

I had my second baby 11 weeks ago and I'm trying to get myself to crave sex more with my partner. It's nearly a year since we dtd as my pregnancy was tiring and hard and since we've had the second baby it's been so hectic with 2 young children. It also doesn't help that the baby is in the same room as us which doesn't make me feel very sexy. Does anyone have any tips on how I can get my sex drive back?

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MarieG10 Tue 02-Jul-19 15:46:29

I don't have any great ideas but just do it and you will probably find your desire comes back. Just don't push yourself if you really don't want to

I found it easier when I had lost the weight and baby started sleeping through ...at 12 weeks😀. Not so tired and felt more like it, bought some new lingerie and had a night out with DH with sitter. Worked a treat

Prawnofthepatriarchy Thu 04-Jul-19 10:14:57

I think you're expecting too much of yourself. Of course you're knackered. Give yourself some time.

DH made me promise on our honeymoon to never have sex because I thought I ought to. He said that's how sex becomes dull and forced. So we promised. And it worked. Our sex life was sparse at times but it was always ground shaking.

When the babies were small and sex sounded like a treat but I was just too tired I used to ask DH to give me a massage. It's surprising how something that should send you to sleep can make you horny. And it was lovely to have some me time - just us, the babies briefly out of mind. Refreshing.

But don't push yourself. Talk to DP. If he's anything like DH he'll be feeling very protective.

Chillijamntuna Sat 13-Jul-19 03:42:52

Give it a couple of years (no rush!) and up your self care/ time to yourself to do what you’re interested in will help you get your identity back and feel more like having sex.

teenmum18 Mon 15-Jul-19 08:04:38

It's taken 2.5 years for my sex drive to come back. Give it time.

Thehop Sat 20-Jul-19 22:50:14

It’s taken years for me. I am breastfeeding a toddler so quite touched out. We had a talk and I employed the “the more we do the more I’ll want” analogy and had a few drinks..

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