Depression, viagra, how to make partner come?

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Shelby121 Wed 05-Jun-19 15:58:09

Hi,

My new partner takes viagra as he has depression and it helps him get hard. I would like to try and help him get harder without it. He keeps reiterating its not me, its just a medical thing and without viagra, he may or may not get hard (but more likely not). Are there ways round this? I'm really not that knowledgeable about viagra, effects of depression etc.

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suncell Wed 05-Jun-19 19:29:51

Viagra only tends to work when the male is already sexually aroused, if he is not turned on it doesn't work, it facilitates erection if he is physically unable to achieve one, some antidepressants can cause erectile disfunction, so please don't put pressure on him to perform without it as you could make the situation worse as he might become psychologically unable to achieve one, and then no matter how much vitamin V he takes it will not make any difference to the situation

Tinkerbellx Wed 05-Jun-19 20:52:18

It's possibly other mediation namely anti depressants .

MisterT373 Sat 08-Jun-19 16:44:51

Some anti depressants - eg Ecitalopram- can hugely delay and suppress orgasm.

Scott72 Sun 09-Jun-19 01:30:43

Are you thinking its the drug that's getting him hard and not his desire for you?

Shelby121 Sun 09-Jun-19 07:38:36

@Scott72 yes, something like that. He has had a lot of partners and says he has always had to use viagra over last couple of years because of depression and I guess my ego feels like why can't he get hard without it.

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xpc316e Mon 10-Jun-19 13:13:11

I sometimes use Viagra, sometimes I don't. I wouldn't advise you to put any pressure whatsoever on your partner to do without it. If he id depressed then not getting hard enough to have sex with someone he likes is definitely not going to make him feel any better.

I understand that for your own self-esteem you may want to be able to say that with the others he needed chemical help, but with you he had a hard-on like a log and it was all as Nature intended. I'd advise against it though as you may be playing Russian Roulette with his emotions.

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