A bit of background for context - DH and I have been together for 25 years, married for 21. We both had cancer in our 20s, mine caused a significant drop in my estrogen level and in my early 40s I had a complex hysterectomy including removal of all ovarian tissue. I can’t take HRT so I’m now post menopausal. In recent years DH has been very insistent that we improve our sex life and this has resulted in me using vaginal pessaries to reverse serious atrophy, use getting a range of sex toys, and DH starting on testosterone injections. DH now wants sex daily while I’d be happy with once a week - if I turn him down he can get very moody. Recently DH has been asking during sex if I will give him a blow job. That’s never been something I’ve done for him and I’ve always been clear that it’s something I don’t want to do. Last time he asked and I refused he stormed off and we haven’t really spoken since (other than to talk about the children, household stuff etc). I feel really disrespected that he won’t take ‘no’ for an answer, but I’m also really worried that our mismatched libidos will bring about the end to our marriage. I really don’t know what to do. DH isn’t one for talking to me and he won’t see a counsellor. I don’t even know what I’m asking for - a reality check, advice from anyone in a simile situation? IDK
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