I’m looking for some advice and help around this issue, in a long standing mumsnetter have recently NC to post this!
I’ve been with my current boyfriend for a year and I’ve never had an orgasm with him. Partly because I just can’t relax and let go enough for it to happen, i think I feel a bit self conscious about it happening but the longer it goes on the worse it feels.
With ny previous two LTRs we’d use a bullet vibrator on my clit during PIV and I’d nearly always have an orgasm (but still struggled to ‘let go” and it’d take a while). Rarely can I make myself orgasm without using some sort of vibration, and the first time I ever orgasmed was when I was 20 when I discovered rampant rabbits anything involving just fingers/penis etc doesn’t do enough to tip me over the edge. With an ex I orgasmed once with him through oral. Every other time was with a toy. I’ve tried relaxing, deep breathing during sex, raising my pelvis, having a massage beforehand, not focusing on an orgasm as a goal and just enjoying - to no avail. It all feels amazing and I love sex with my bf but I do crave that explosion with him.
He has said things like “let me know what feels good/if I’m doing anything wrong” and I feel bad that he may feel bad that it’s not happening.
Do I need to chuck my vibrators in a cupboard and get back to basics by myself? Maybe I’ve become too reliant on them?
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I can’t orgasm with boyfriend no matter what
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Chillicheese · 01/01/2019 17:14
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