I need some help. Mine and DH sex life has gone down the pan majorly since having kids. I think we've had sex 5 times in a year perhaps. He has a low sex drive and I just feel totally undesired. My sex drive is average I'd say. His lack of need for sex further lessens my desire for him unfortunately- it's like a vicious circle. :-( I just feel really really sad that I don't look forward to having sex with DH any more. I feel quite self conscious now too as it's become a 'thing' - if we do ever do it it doesn't feel natural really. We have talked about it but it's quite hard too as I don't want to make the situation even more awkward than it is. Also, because I can't really let go and enjoy it anymore I don't really want to have sex with him anyway right now! The problem hasn't been helped by our circumstances either. We're living in a location I don't like, he works long hours and I left with kids and mental load so feel massive resentment towards him - which is unfair on him. I also feel really frustrated as he's not a particularly emotional or talkative person so I don't get much out of him. We don't laugh like we used to either. I feel like there's a flicker of an ember left on a fire which is about to go out. How do I get the fire going again??
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