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Are toys a regular part of your sex life?(7 Posts)
As title really, I’m so bloody bored of the same old sex all the time. It takes me ages to come, which puts me off sex as I often can’t be bothered with hour long sessions. I’d love to start using some toys to spice things up a bit and get me there a bit quicker but DP is a bit ‘stuffy’ when it comes to things like that. He seems to think it’s a reflection on him that we’d need them
Does anyone use them semi regularly? If so which ones?
My partner and I use toys regularly, as she finds it difficult to reach orgasm. We use a wand-type massager (search for Hitachi Magic Wand - Hitachi no longer make them, but you'l see what it is all about). We have other toys as well, but the wand is just what the doctor ordered when it comes to getting her off. She can have multiple orgasms with it, and for me that is immense fun. I just love making her cum and cum and cum, and I fail to see how a man wouldn't enjoy that. Surely, sex is all about giving pleasure to someone else? You may as well go solo, if your own enjoyment is all you want.
Your husband needs to change his mindset; it isn't a reflection on him at all. It is a really fun thing to do that is a benefit to both parties. He will probably get something out of it, and if you have been truly satisfied you will be inclined to return the favour and try different things that he might like. Go for it!
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What xpc said is spot on. Any man that made me feel like using anything was wrong wouldn’t be going there again anytime soon. How selfish!
Love Honey do similar to the Hitachi wand 😉
Yes we use toys, just makes it more fun.
Bumping for you here OP as I was about to post something similar. I’ve been looking at buying something to diversify our sex life a bit. I enjoy our sex, I always orgasm easily from penetrative sex but since my last child don’t seem as able to from just foreplay. My husband enjoys long fore play and sometimes I just want to get stuck in so to speak! I’ve been in Ann Summers website and am frightened of what to go for! I’ve never used anything more than massage oil and body paint but like the idea of a vibrator. Any ideas from people?