Threesome with escort

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Galwaygirl Thu 05-Jul-18 07:50:28

DH and I are interested! Is it a bad idea for a relationship,thinking its OK as neither of us know her personally and will never see her again, unlike if its a friend! Thoughts! Thanks!

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Lalameme Thu 05-Jul-18 10:47:58

I’ve has friends and partners who’ve had 3 somes

My best friend had regular ones with a women and her husband and the other woke guy emitionally attached to my friend so my friend had to have it stopped- it was my friends husbands idea she’s done it with 2 of her friends and him and now he thinks some of her other friends would be uofor it as he inky w ata to socialise with her certain over confident friends.
My friend doesn’t want to do it anymore and her husband wasn’t happy saying he has nothing to lol forward to now????
So I think that in itself is a worry.

My husband did with his ex wife with her friend my husband admits the other women was better in bed and wanted to have sex alone with her and the wife not know - the ex wife had become jealous so it stopped too.

My ex he had several with different people with his ex they did swininging male male female , female male female and his ex hit jealous and it stopped.

Personally I feel if you really love someone seeing them that up close and personal with another will break your heart

Most are drunk or take drugs when doing this.

In a relationship I’d never do this but single I would but STDS are rife and HIV

You won’t know until after how you feel but I wouldn’t want to be in a sexual situation with my husband and another women I’ve told him if that’s what he wants he’ll need to go find 2 other women and I’m not interested - tbh if he did that we’d be over.

Of course there are many many couples that do this but once to start one of you will want more it can be addictive and then there’s a chance one of you or the 3rd person can get feeling for one of the other even escorts can.

It’s a risk

Who is pushing for this mostly - you or your partner ?

Galwaygirl Thu 05-Jul-18 11:13:26

Thanks for your reply, me mainly as it came up in conversation recently, we are going to a European city for a break and he is celebrating a big birthday and I thought it might be a nice present! I think I would be OK as long as I was confident the escort was recommended through an agency and no kissing DH! It may not materialise, fantasy and reality are 2 different things, I am not body confident and this is an issue for me that she will be stunning!!

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Lalameme Thu 05-Jul-18 11:49:23

Personally I’d not pick a stunning one lol

Galwaygirl Thu 05-Jul-18 12:52:17

Lol! No one younger than us and nobody with an amazing body!

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Lalameme Thu 05-Jul-18 13:19:50

Younger doesn’t mean better lol honestly

TooTrueToBeGood Fri 06-Jul-18 07:56:02

Wouldn't be for me, nor my wife I'm sure, but each to their own. I think it's vital you are both 100% confident it's for you and won't have any jealousy afterwards. Some genies can't be put back in the bottle. As you say you "think" you would be ok, I would urge caution.

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Wherearemymarbles Fri 06-Jul-18 10:01:59

There was a post a while back where a couple had used an escort.

Basically it was a big disappointment as very unsexy. Lets face it the escort doesnt really want to have sex with your husband or you. Its a transaction. And do you really want to buy someone’s body?

It would be more fun im sure if you put an add in fabswingers.....

chestylarue52 Sat 07-Jul-18 19:46:11

I’ve done it, it was really fun. I’m bisexual, we chose very carefully, paid a small fortune, I talked to her before hand about what we wanted and she didn’t do anything directly with my partner. It was a blast.

NotTheFordType Sat 07-Jul-18 22:28:57

I think I would be OK as long as I was confident the escort was recommended through an agency

So basically you're happy as long as she's being exploited?

Come on. Look for an indie girl or just don't bother.

Galwaygirl Sat 07-Jul-18 23:03:40

The reason I posted here was because I was looking for advice as I have never done this before, I thought the proper way to go was through an escort agency, I have no idea what an indie girl is and I am hardly going to drive around a red light district and pick up some randomer

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NotTheFordType Sun 08-Jul-18 10:07:16

"Indie" means independent. Agencies are pimps, effectively. They have no security features, they generally don't know the workers' names or addresses and the majority of girls working for agencies are young students desperate for cash, a lot of them are strung out on coke. You need to get on whatever the local country's independent advertising platform is and pick someone who works for themselves.

I fucking love seeing couples. A lot of sex workers charge extra but I just charge my normal hourly rate.

You want to pick someone whose profile is well written and engaging, and who advertises as bisexual, not bi-curious (which basically means "I don't really fancy women but I'll pretend to if I'm getting paid enough".)

Galwaygirl Sun 08-Jul-18 11:04:57

Thank you for that information, as you can see I am very naïve but that makes sense! Thanks again

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maccax Tue 10-Jul-18 16:46:29

You may also have more luck just popping onto fabswingers or similar, have a look around, maybe set up a simple profile and chat. Lots of chat! Sift out the weird ones!!
Meet socially and see how things go.
I've met some lovely people this way.

Galwaygirl Wed 11-Jul-18 16:54:17

Because its Berlin we don't have much time to chat lol as we are there for 2 nights, how do you find someone then??

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