Turned on by pregnancy risk

(22 Posts)
user263781638 Mon 19-Feb-18 18:30:07

Ok so I think that's what it is hmm
Me and my DH have been together for 10 years, have 2 DD's the youngest being 2, both planned.
After DD2 I had the coil as we haven't planned to have anymore kids but due to an abnormal smear and LLETZ treatment I had to have it removed, I've been on various contraception over the years but no others agree with me and after it taking 2 years to settle down I just don't fancy it again. So we've been 'pulling out' I don't know what's happened to me but ever since I'm just so turned on, can't get enough of him 😂 our sex life has always been good but atm it's twice a day everyday, if not more.
It wouldn't be the end of the world if I did fall pregnant we just never wanted anymore.

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NotTheFordType Tue 20-Feb-18 02:02:43

Congratulations on your game of Russian roulette with the potential life of an innocent.

You've got 2 so suggest one of you gets sterilised.

user263781638 Tue 20-Feb-18 09:50:21

We have 2 not 20.
And as for an innocent life, it would never be unwanted or mistreated, just not planned like the others.

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balsamicbarbara Tue 20-Feb-18 10:25:03

It just sounds like you're naturally ready and willing to have a third to me. But what does he think? You need to be on the same page in case he would expect any pregnancy to be terminated.

user263781638 Tue 20-Feb-18 10:30:04

He would never expect me to terminate a pregnancy, I know that for sure.
I'm not actively trying to for another and wouldn't mind either way, we're both on the 'if it happens it happens' page but still pulling out because we're not actively trying if that makes sense!? I don't know

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Brahms3rdracket Tue 20-Feb-18 10:50:40

This happened to me and I now have my beautiful third child. For me it was regaining my naturally high libido after ridding myself of all the artificial hormones that had screwed up my system from being on the pill for years. I was sterilized during my baby's birth and now have lots of no-risk sex, as well as a much loved third child. If you're happy to take the risk, carry on, otherwise I suggest using condoms or consider sterilization.

user263781638 Tue 20-Feb-18 19:55:06

Yeah I think it might be the libido thing, all though I had the copper coil so no hormones in that one but massive blood loss I was always so tired!
I thought they was quite strict with sterilisation of woman? Thought you had to be over a certain age with 3 kids or something like that.

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balsamicbarbara Tue 20-Feb-18 20:48:17

In that case I can't see why you can't just enjoy it. You're reducing the chance of conceiving substantially even with your withdrawal technique but aren't worried if you do conceive.. so I'd just enjoy your libido while you've got it.

Wherearemymarbles Tue 20-Feb-18 20:53:36

Its down to being hormone free.

He can have a vasectomy

Brahms3rdracket Tue 20-Feb-18 22:34:45

I qualified for sterilization as it was my third child, I was over 40 and due to give birth via c-section anyway. If that hadn't been the case my partner would have undergone a vasectomy.

user263781638 Tue 20-Feb-18 22:50:56

We're both 28 and both of my births have been vaginal so I very much doubt that I'd be considered, it's all on him then.

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BungledUpInTwo Tue 20-Feb-18 22:57:40

It's not just you. Once when we were young and stupid DP and I had unprotected sex...it was a conscious "in the moment" thing, knowing full well that we'd have to go to Boots the next day for a MAP...

It was hot.

Afternooncatnap Fri 23-Feb-18 22:18:08

I don't see the issue here. If your happy with the chance of another baby then have fun and let the fate decide.

Twice a day though! How do you find the time and energy.

TwoIsQuiteEnoughThankyou Thu 08-Mar-18 09:19:45

*Congratulations on your game of Russian roulette with the potential life of an innocent.

You've got 2 so suggest one of you gets sterilised.*

This is the kind of bile I would expect from someone with your username. FFS.

Maybe just envious of all the sex OP is having.

awkwardsitch Thu 08-Mar-18 17:50:57

Just use a condom hmm

ItStartedWithAKiss241 Fri 09-Mar-18 09:06:10

This happens to me grin Glad I’m not a lone weirdo. I think it’s hormonal probably x

NotTheFordType Sun 11-Mar-18 15:35:02

Really TwoIs? You think over-populating the planet is a good idea just because someone gets a sexual thrill out of the idea?

BrutusMcDogface Sun 11-Mar-18 23:00:03

My dp and I are often extra horny when we know I'm ovulating; VERY luckily we've never had fertility issues (I'm currently preg) but we've just put it down to animal instincts grin

BrutusMcDogface Sun 11-Mar-18 23:00:41

I haven't been on hormonal contraception for about 10 years, though, as it really doesn't agree with me.

TheGruffalosArse Tue 13-Mar-18 13:45:50

Yeah I think it's natural and instinctual. It's all to do with virility and all that. Sex that could lead to pregnancy leaves you panting because that's how the human race survives.

Whiskaspie Mon 09-Apr-18 06:36:56

Really TwoIs? You think over-populating the planet is a good idea just because someone gets a sexual thrill out of the idea?

Could say something here about thinking it's an acceptable idea for guys to cheat on their wives with sex workers just because they get a sexual thrill out of it, ford. Each to their own, eh?

Imstickingwiththisone Mon 09-Apr-18 23:57:38

Im like this without hormonal contraception op. I've tried the pill and the implant and they both kill my libido. Don't fancy the copper coil and DP isn't into condoms. I mean to try different types of the pill but find it a total pita thing to go to the drs for.

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