Road Kill!!

(21 Posts)
ThirdTimeUnlucky Wed 17-Jan-18 12:16:01

Hi, so a bloke I've been seeing via OLD asked for a pic of my vag. I obliged with one with a vibrator in (soz if TMI). He commented how pretty it was. Anyway, I was hiding my labia, which are, IMO, quite long and I've never liked the look of myself. I commented back that I didn't think mine was pretty but didn't say why. He then commented that he has seen some that look like road kill! I got upset over this and asked him to explain cos I now think mine must look like roadkill He said I was being uptight and not to worry about it. We've had sex, under the covers, so not sure if he's had a good old look, lol. He ticks so many boxes otherwise but can't help feeling he must be a real pig/arrogant to say such things. He is so more confident than me regarding sex that I just don't know if he'll end up shattering my newly found confidence (since separation).
Anyone got any advice. Should I let one comment put me off entirely?

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Wherearemymarbles Wed 17-Jan-18 16:38:55

I suspect it was a glib and tasltess comment.

I’m a man and have never ever been put off by a womans labia! Short, long, thin, not so thin it really doesnt matter!

Be kind to yourself and love your labia!!!!

ThirdTimeUnlucky Wed 17-Jan-18 17:03:31

Thank you marbles. He's totally down playing it and making me out like I'm highly strung.

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Wherearemymarbles Wed 17-Jan-18 17:54:54

I guss some/alot/most men dont realise how self conscious some women can be about their appearance.

I sm sure it was a cackhanded attempt to make you feel better.

CheekyChaCha Wed 17-Jan-18 18:16:15

I agree with Wherearemymarbles. Is he otherwise a dick? If not, I would just mark it down as one of his two chances gone.

Inthishouse Wed 17-Jan-18 22:51:32

Wait a minute!!! He's said something really offensive, then told you that you are upright, and you have a hunch (which I think may well be justified) that he's an arrogant pig who won't do your confidence any good.
Please chuck this fish back in the sea and move into someone nicer who you have confidence in and who you know will make you feel wonderful.

rwalker Thu 18-Jan-18 06:29:59

to me just seems like a jokey thing to say .Wouldn't give it a 2nd thought


ThirdTimeUnlucky Thu 18-Jan-18 17:48:13

I think he's treating me like a 'fuck buddy'. I told him that I can be free Fri or Sat if he wants to see me. I know he's not working. He sent a msg saying "not sure if I'm free yet......". I sent a msg back asking if he is working or maybe he's hoping for a new FB? His reply will tell me all I need to know about him I guess.

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Inthishouse Thu 18-Jan-18 20:57:58

Comparing intimate parts of a woman to 'road kill' is a jokey comment?
Bloody hell - people really need to raise the bar about what constitutes humour.

OP - if he's not making you feel happy and valued he really needs to go

Eleanorsummer Thu 18-Jan-18 21:11:41

That would put me off to be honest.

Jason118 Thu 18-Jan-18 22:42:54

I despair at the behaviour of my fellow man. Throw him back.

BartholinsSister Fri 19-Jan-18 11:21:43

To be fair I guess we've all seen dicks that aren't as appealing than others.
How do you photograph your vag whilst hiding your labia?

ThirdTimeUnlucky Fri 19-Jan-18 11:46:59

Barth yes that is very true! I hid my labia as I had a rampant rabbit inside me, lol!
Anyway, it's irrelevant now. He's into scat and that's a definite no-no for me. I'm obviously not liberal minded enough for him so I told him goodbye and he said he understood and wished me luck!
Probably had a lucky escape but there's no doubt that he would have been a good lover (only had sex once and he made my eyes bulge, lol). Shame.
Got another two irons on the go but don't hold the same appeal as MrHard. What is wrong with me, grrrrr.

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BoobleMcB Fri 19-Jan-18 17:57:02

I think it was a very poorly worded way of trying to make you feel better. Clearly he was a tad wide if the mark lol

ThirdTimeUnlucky Sun 21-Jan-18 17:06:10

An update - saw him on PoF so msg him. We've sorted things out and it's game on again! I explained that I felt my sexuality was probably a bit vanilla for him and I was worried that he'd find me inadequate. He said rubbish and I don't have to do scat!! Can't believe I'm typing this, lol. Anyway, I am so attracted to him, it's insane. Plus he doesn't want a fuck buddy, he wants a relationship. Seeing him tomorrow.
Has anyone else felt like this, intrigued by what someone has done in the past but felt inadequate because of it and well shit scared, lol.

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SkaPunkPrincess Mon 22-Jan-18 21:07:47

You are willingly having sex with a man who likes to eat poo?

loveablether Mon 22-Jan-18 21:18:53

Is that what scat is? Eating shit?

GhettoFabulous Mon 22-Jan-18 21:26:35

Scat is an extremely unusual fetish even in the bdsm world. Are you sure he didn't mean watersports?

ThirdTimeUnlucky Mon 22-Jan-18 22:26:59

Nope, not water sports. He didn't eat it, the girl he was with smeared it over him and then gave him a BJ. Gross, hey! Saw him today and he was lovely. He explained a bit more about his sexual past and it was just a phase he went thro, experimenting. He has assured me that he doesn't expect anything from me. The sex was great, passionate, not weird. A little hair pulling and slapped bottom at one point, which I actually enjoyed smile. Am seeing him again so who knows what things we will get up to, but defo not scat!!

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ThirdTimeUnlucky Mon 22-Jan-18 22:28:47

Oh and he said my vag looked beautiful, didn't know why I was so worried! So, that's my hang-up laid to rest, hopefully! Lol.

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NormaNameChange Tue 23-Jan-18 20:01:14

As long as you're happy...

I'm not sure Id want any man near my vag when he had referred to any other womens labia as "road kill" .

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