Bad idea?(5 Posts)
SeamusMacDubh Thu 19-Oct-17 13:25:32
Brahms3rdracket Thu 19-Oct-17 14:08:52
SeamusMacDubh Thu 19-Oct-17 14:54:45
Brahms3rdracket Thu 19-Oct-17 15:06:49
SeamusMacDubh Thu 19-Oct-17 15:18:07
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Back story: my DH and I don't have a brilliant marriage, I prefer it when he's at work and we bicker and don't get along very well.
Lately, I'm feeling very sexual, horny I suppose, and feel needs and urges. DH and I haven't had sex in months (I can't remember when we last did) and we don't really have any sort of physical contact. I've been considering having sex with him to try and calm these urges but worry that it wouldn't be the right thing to do. I don't want him to think that everything is hunky dory again and that I'm happy in the marriage because I'm not. WWYD? I've tried a bit of self help but it's not quite cutting it.
Depending very much on why your relationship is struggling i would either take the opportunity to work on improving things in general and rebuild the intimacy or buy a new vibrator.
Are you planning to continue in your marriage this way, attempt to improve or separate? Apart from feeling horny, do you want to reconnect with him?
It's done now, urges won the day. I feel a bit funny about it to be honest. I probably shouldn't have done but I can't take it back now. I told him I thought I was ovulating and that my body was having urges etc. So I think he knows I wasn't overcome with passionate feelings of lust for him.
I don't think we'll work it out, I feel like I'm stagnating and just waiting for the end. I've probably been quite selfish today.
Do you know what, I've just read some of your previous threads and can see where you're coming from. I wouldn't trouble yourself with guilt tbh. Hope it was a decent shag anyway.
It scratched an itch so to speak!! Thanks for replying, I'm not sure I could really chat to my DM about this to be honest