Not sure what to do next

[Whathappensnowthen]

I am fairly recently separated (about 6 months) but haven't had sex for about a year.

I've only had 3 sexual partners and don't consider myself to be particularly experienced. I've had 4 children with my ex, but all emergency caesarians.

So here's my current situation. I have met a new chap. He ticks every box in the looks department and is a 'nice' guy, but we both have complex issues surrounding exes/children which means a proper relationship will probably never happen. However, we are very attracted to each other and the chemistry is electric.

I went to his place the other evening and, well, one thing led to another. Talk about eye-opening. It was like nothing I had ever experienced. 6'2" powerhouse

But I bled, quite a lot. I think I tore. Sorry for the tmi. He was obviously concerned and asked afterwards and the next day if I was ok. Is this normal after a year with no sex? Without wanting to sound stupid, have I 'closed up'? And how can I stop it happening again?

[demirose87]

Sorry that happened OP. Get him to go easy next time, plenty of foreplay and go slow. Use lube if it helps. Then if it happens again see the GP.

[Brahms3rdracket]

I echo the above poster about lots of foreplay and additional lube with a larger partner, but if it was that much blood perhaps get checked by the doctor. If you're still delicate sit in a salt bath, that usually helps.