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I am fairly recently separated (about 6 months) but haven't had sex for about a year.
I've only had 3 sexual partners and don't consider myself to be particularly experienced. I've had 4 children with my ex, but all emergency caesarians.
So here's my current situation. I have met a new chap. He ticks every box in the looks department and is a 'nice' guy, but we both have complex issues surrounding exes/children which means a proper relationship will probably never happen. However, we are very attracted to each other and the chemistry is electric.
I went to his place the other evening and, well, one thing led to another. Talk about eye-opening. It was like nothing I had ever experienced. 6'2" powerhouse
But I bled, quite a lot. I think I tore. Sorry for the tmi. He was obviously concerned and asked afterwards and the next day if I was ok. Is this normal after a year with no sex? Without wanting to sound stupid, have I 'closed up'? And how can I stop it happening again?
Sorry that happened OP. Get him to go easy next time, plenty of foreplay and go slow. Use lube if it helps. Then if it happens again see the GP.
I echo the above poster about lots of foreplay and additional lube with a larger partner, but if it was that much blood perhaps get checked by the doctor. If you're still delicate sit in a salt bath, that usually helps.