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Sex tips needed - out of practice!!(9 Posts)
I was going to add this to my genital piercing thread but thought this would better as a new thread - if that's allowed??
I have my tongue pierced - anyone got any tips/tricks to enhance blow jobs? I use the ball to tease the frenulum, rim of the glans, to lick the shaft and swirl it round the opening but wondered if there were any mind blowing ones I was missing - actually any blow job tips would be useful - after not wanting to give stbxh a bj for 12 yrs (didn't fancy him - I settled)now I'm with gorgeous sexy new bloke I feel a bit rusty.
We spend hours kissing (stbxh was an awful kisser and I gave up trying to teach him after a while), stroking - he loves being bitten (never on show) and having my nails grip him but there is a problem with maintaining his erection whenever we move to piv sex - which we have spoken openly about and every time we dtd we do get slightly further - until he realises he's having piv sex and then he loses it
Any good tips on any aspect of sex with a new person for a 40yr old would be appreciated 😂
From your descriptions of what you already know, I don't think you need any tips!
No one can give you tips on technique specifics re how to 'be good at sex' with a new person. It's so individual. What one person finds 'mind blowing', another might not. The best thing to do is find out what your partner's likes/dislikes/preferences are and go from there. So I suppose confidence and openness are the best 'tips'. It sounds like you and your P are quite good at talking about things, so that's a win.
Generalised 'More magazine' style sex tips (put that there, lick this etc) are a bit prescriptive and one size definitely does not fit all where sex is concerned.
Sounds like the little local difficulty your bloke is happening is mental rather than physical. Once he's had a problem, he starts panicking it will happen again in the same situation. Best thing to try first is a simple rubber cock ring. C
Something like this from lovehoney. It traps the blood in his erection and should help him passed the panic and will hopefully end the cycle he's in.
Deep throat. Its a bit porny but it drives my DP wild
The g-spot can be stimulated at the point where the penis and balls (tubes) meet the body. If you touch the root of the penis and apply gentle rhythmic pressure there you can stimmulate very intense and powerful orgasms.
Also the perinium, the region between his anus and testicles when massaged can bring on intense orgasms.
Ps dh loves this (my above post) whilst I stroke his thighs and feet with the other hand and use my mouth on the head and shaft of his penis. I love prolonging the pleasure until he can't take any more.
Second a bit of the old deep throat action.
It takes time to desensitise the epiglottis. But can be done. A couple of times usually does the trick.
Cumbria - it is mental - he's said himself and he's caught in a bit of a vicious circle - perfect excuse to have a love honey shop!!
Occams - thanks will try that trick 😉