Ok, this is a bit difficult to post, I'm hoping someone can help/point me in the direction of help!
In a nutshell- my partner can't come. Not during sex/foreplay or with my help. He can come alone but it takes up to 2 hours.
We really want to start trying for a baby next year - he's worried and I'm worried too! He says he's never been able to come with anyone, he's had three partners and it's just never happened. I'm his first serious relationship, we've been together nearly a year. I have a child from a previous relationship, and the area we live in doesn't offer ivf.
What can we do? Any suggestions? He has quite a stressful job, he likes to be in control (of himself- not me, genuinely lovely guy, I've been in a terrible and controlling relationship before, he's totally different!) and struggles to let go. He considers masturbation (for him) a deeply private thing and the worst aspect of himself as he doesn't like letting go. He's also on a very low dose of antidepressant which is more for his reassurance than anything - he says his doctor has said he technically doesn't need it any more, but if being on it reassures him then she'll prescribe it a bit longer.
I dont think this is an easy fix... but time is not on our side in terms of my age (early menopause in my family, is a worry) and I'd be really upset not to have another child and he'd be absolutely gutted. He adores my child, and he really wants more - he'd given up on the idea of having a family and then by chance met me.
I don't know what to do. He seems to think it'll fix itself in time. I don't think it will. I don't mean to be pessimistic, but I feel that if he hates 'letting go' enough to come and it takes up to 2 hours alone, there's a problem.
Ok, that's long. Sorry.
Any advice appreciated!
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My partner can't come
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Caffeinatedbrewofjoy · 21/02/2017 23:47
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