DH and I have mismatched sex drives. His is fairly low and I have quite a high sex drive but I also have major confidence issues when it comes to initiating sex. I think about initiating quite regular and run it through my head a hundred times but I bottle it so we tend to only ever have sex when he wants it which is not very often. I know I should be over those issues by now we've been together for 8 years but it knocks my confidence a lot because in the past he has fallen to sleep when I try initiating or I get rejected.
So two days ago I gave it another shot when we got into bed, I started touching him and he was hard but while I was playing with him I could hear him start to snore. Usually at this point I would get upset and probably cry myself to sleep feeling rejected and unloved but I decided to give him a BJ to see if it would wake him up.
It did wake him up and he was really enjoying it, which I love as it's a huge turn on for me. Usually oral sex is only part of fore play for us but on this occasion he finished which I didn't mind
I nipped to the bathroom to clean up and when I came back, he kissed me on the cheek, turned over and went to sleep.
I felt like I was back at stage one feeling completely rejected and unloved.
Am I being unreasonable to have expected at least an attempt to please me?
I got myself all worked up and excited while giving him head to be left feeling very unsatisfied and a bit rejected.
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Am I overreacting? BJ blues
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Mummyhug · 23/01/2017 01:04
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