Missing sex

(12 Posts)
RedComet Sat 31-Dec-16 14:05:05

Split up with DH two years ago after long boring marriage. I'm happy single on my own with my two teens.
Last summer I had a fling which only lasted 3 months as he lived abroad and ultimately distance killed it. The sex we had was great compared to DH who was very vanilla. Having said that I was not terribly heart broken when we called it a day and it was all very amicable and my family never knew about him. Trouble is that the short time we were together made me aware of how much I was enjoying sex and I miss it. Although I'm not actively looking for a relationship I crave sex (not love). Sadly I'm not a toys person and OLD doesn't work for me either. There are so many single middle aged men and women out there, most must have desires too. So what do they do/ have done about it. I need to sort my sexlife out!


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madmother1 Sat 31-Dec-16 14:11:31

I was on my own for 5 years. I've dabbled with OLD on and off. I've finally met the man of my dreams and the sex is superb at the moment. I just used to use a vibrator or masterbate in the 5 years on my own as I didn't want casual one night stands. I think you need to give OLD another go 😊

PotteringAlong Sat 31-Dec-16 14:15:21

You don't need OLD - you need on line sex hook ups if that's what you want.

RedComet Sat 31-Dec-16 14:23:58

Trouble with OLD is that I don't seem to be able to find men I fancy and the few ones that appealed to me turned out to be married or be in some sort of "unhappy" relationship despite having a single profile. Not something I want to get involved with. I have also chatted to men and women on Fet, see what is out there but pretty much more of the same. May just have to give it another go. Any recommendations for websites?


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RedComet Sat 31-Dec-16 14:26:21

Not really thought about hook ups. What in terms of safety and perhaps even worse being found out!!!

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TheNaze73 Sat 31-Dec-16 17:16:31

Why would being found out worry you?

RedComet Sat 31-Dec-16 18:06:28

I like to keep my private life private. I prefer it if my family, colleagues etc don't know if I'm seeing someone. I just prefer it that way.

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Mrswinkler Sat 31-Dec-16 19:31:31

What OLD sites have you tried? OkCupid pretty good for that kind of relationship if you set your stall out well...

RedComet Sat 31-Dec-16 20:13:17

Only POF and also chatted on Fet. Someone even suggested Ashley Madisson. Apparently it is not just for people looking to cheat, appears there are singles on there too. Will have a look at OkCupid, thanks.

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BlackCoffeeTime Tue 03-Jan-17 06:28:24

Have a look at plenty more naughty fish. Lots of singles in your position on there, both men and women. Just know that you may need to sort the wheat from the chaff initially, and follow the usual advice to meet somewhere public etc. But the thing with hookup sites like that is that everyone is there knowing exactly what they want, no beating around the bush (so to speak).

Christmasmice Fri 13-Jan-17 00:36:47

Have a look at Tinder too. I was sceptical but it's actually great

LucyLocketLostIt Fri 13-Jan-17 09:27:02


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