Prostate massage

(27 Posts)
Lovemyman Wed 14-Dec-16 18:31:21

Ok ladies and gents, I need a bit of advice.

I'd like to massage my partners prostate.. currently we do it externally, but we both want to explore.

Will I hurt him? What does it feel like and any tips on the best way to do it so he gets the best pleasure?

Toys or fingers?

Apologies if it disgusts anyone, but I need to ask x

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Wed 14-Dec-16 18:35:48

How do you do it externally? < Misses point of the thread>

Boogers Wed 14-Dec-16 18:38:54

I'm seconding how you do it externally! I thought it was a couple of inches inside the anus. fconfused

TheHiphopopotamus Wed 14-Dec-16 18:39:51

Thirding the how do you do it externally question confused

Lovemyman Wed 14-Dec-16 18:39:53

From the outside.. under his balls

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Lovemyman Wed 14-Dec-16 18:40:59

There is an area under the balls that some men can feel it through if they are sensitive enough..mine is luckily

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Lovemyman Wed 14-Dec-16 18:41:40

Anyways . . How internally?

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FannyFifer Wed 14-Dec-16 18:42:32


OverlyYappy Wed 14-Dec-16 18:45:51

God I feel old

<misses point of thread>

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Wed 14-Dec-16 19:06:13

I googled,bit new agey but didn't want to stray into porn territory!

SleepingTiger Wed 14-Dec-16 21:59:01


Sorry if too much information, but I felt the need to post. It's about external prostate massage. Forget internal because it's not how to do it!

External - It really works. fblush

I don't get the fingers in the bum thing, it's just not for me. But, I had a lover a few years ago who knew how to do it externally and she wanted to give to me. We were same age, early 40's and she was early widowed, Thai lady. I say this only because massage is a key sensory and prelude to love making in her culture.

After we got to know each other a few times, she knew when I was about to come and made me edge. Then as I peaked, kneeling down on our bed, she opened her hand and cupped her entire palm and fingers around that long ridge that goes down between the bottom of the ball sack and the anus. Without entering me, in just a few seconds she managed to curve her fingers into me down there, grip me take a firm hold, and massage me so subtly, twisting me a few degrees until I reached an amazing shuddering orgasm.

It lasted for 20-30 seconds. That is awesome for a guy. I don't know how she did it. It may never happen to me again. I was just so happy and externally grateful! fsmile

That's the way to do it, don't know how though.

Obsidian77 Wed 14-Dec-16 22:08:46

Used to do it to an ex. Middle finger, lube if necessary, about 2-3cm up, have a gentle play around wink I found making a small circular movement effective.
This would make him come extremely hard, though not a patch on SleepingTiger's experience...I need to learn how to do that.

Ineedmorelemonpledge Thu 15-Dec-16 09:12:32

Derek? Is that you?

DaddyDayCare82 Thu 15-Dec-16 12:58:29

This is something I've recently tried with my wife as a compromise to her using a plug during sex. And I must say it was a really really pleasurable experience.
So to answer your question OP

No it doesn't hurt one bit, make sure you turn him on properly first it really helped relax me.
Use lots of lube on both your finger and his anus, my wife used middle finger as obsidian77 suggested, so around 2-3 inches inside towards the front wall you'll feel a wallnut type sponge! This is where you have to massage. No small circular motions to start with but your DP will be able to tell you what feels good!
From my perspective my wife lubed up my penis and wanked me while playing with my P spot. She said that as I drew close to orgasm the wallnut became harder, this is when I asked for more pressure so I'm guessing that's your cue to go for it. I had a really explosive orgasm and it felt great.
Since then my wife went out and bought me a rocks off O-Boy Prostate Massger toy and we've used that while she gave me head and I've worn it during sex (her on top while slow grinding) she said she can feel the vibrations through my penis but that worked wonders too!
So either way is good. But we've decided to only use it now as a special treat!

Hope this helps

BartholinsSister Thu 15-Dec-16 15:23:06

/crosses walnuts off Christmas shopping list.

LeopardPrintSocks1 Thu 15-Dec-16 15:42:28


DaddyDayCare82 Thu 15-Dec-16 15:54:40

Haha sorry for the TMI, was just trying to inform blush

Brightredpencil Thu 15-Dec-16 20:02:20

I've always wanted to know this too as I'd like to try it on my partner by always been put off by... poo?! Doesnt your finger get pooey?! I need to revise that whole external massage thing though!

SweetPeaPods Thu 15-Dec-16 20:56:19

Bright that's what I worried about too.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Thu 15-Dec-16 20:57:31

Medical gloves?grin

DaddyDayCare82 Thu 15-Dec-16 22:22:06

my wife wore a glove bough from local chemist! And I can bet what people must think it might take away from the experience but it really didn't, she had same reservation so we decided that was best for both worlds. Since then we've tried it after I'd been to the loo an hour before and a shower pre activity.. And it was clean. But glove isn't a bad idea!

makingyourmindup123 Thu 15-Dec-16 22:22:58

Just chortled out very loudly at bartholinssister comment grin

NotTheFordType Sun 18-Dec-16 23:53:41

You'll only get poo on your finger if he's not fully evacuated his last bowel movement. (Exactly the same principle for when he does it to you!) He can use an anal douche if you're anxious about this.

f83mx Mon 19-Dec-16 12:25:04

BartholinsSister - also chortling at walnut comment...

Ineedmorelemonpledge Mon 19-Dec-16 13:28:37

For some reason I'm singing "Poo on my finger" in the style of "tears on my pillow"

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