My OH and I are grandparent age and my OH has a serious neuro-degenerative disorder that affects every aspect of his life, and will continue to worsen. He is a decent kind highly intelligent ex-professional.
The problem is that one of his drugs (he takes loads) has the effect of making him want to have sex all the time - it is a known side effect and there is nothing to be done - not taking it puts him at risk of falls and other problems.
I have several health problems and have a quite a bit of pain to contend with. I also suffered an acute post-operative depression a few years ago and am still taking medication at a small does for this.
We are in a vicious circle in that his desire for sex is so all-consuming - we cannot enjoy the hugs and friendly physical gestures without a hand going straight down my knickers. I find that rather sad.
It also means that every day starts with him rubbing himself up against and dying to get at me. TBH I have lost interest in sex completely for several reasons - my medication, my age, my pain - but also I am so put off by his unrelenting desire.
It is so sad as we have every opportunity to have a good retirement - lovely home with beautiful views, loving family and it is such a trial to have this constant stress and to start every day with a minor battle. It also means that in some ways I have to keep him at a distance all the time which is not what I want to do.
I could not countenance sleeping in another room as his illness makes him wake up at night with many problems for which he needs his hand held.
What would you do? I have tried to talk to him about it but it just seems we go round in circles.
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Blossomdeary · 06/11/2016 10:31
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