What do I wear to a fetish club?

(41 Posts)
HarlotsWeb Mon 17-Oct-16 15:49:36

I just don't want to look out of place. I know people say anything goes, but doesn't that mean "anything outrageous goes"? I can't imagine it covers a comfy pair of elderly jeans, if you see what I mean. And hair and make up? I am really very ordinary looking and a bit out of my depth. I'm not worried about any activity that might take place, just about looking wrong.

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ruddynorah Tue 18-Oct-16 08:12:13

Get a latex dress from Pandora deluxe.

MsStricty Tue 18-Oct-16 08:13:52

Latex dress. Catsuit. I preferred the second.

VelvetSparkles Tue 18-Oct-16 23:43:24

Corset, heels, stockings, latex catsuit, latex dress, burlesque skirt, leather trousers, high heeled, thigh hi boots...the world really IS your oyster. Black is standard and easy, and common. Depends where you're going... Some clubs are more glamour/latex (torture garden) and others are more relaxed. If you're planning to play - take something comfortable for afterwards and Enjoy!

VenusRising Tue 18-Oct-16 23:46:45

A wimple and a smile?

Guiltypleasures001 Wed 19-Oct-16 11:48:23

Hi op

You can wear whatever you like, just as long as your comfortable

If the jeans make you feel safe/secure you could go for a basque or corset with a
Jacket over the top.

I've seen all sorts and the best was some guy in white tennis shoes and a pair of white socks
Nothing else bar his glasses shockand he was pleased to see everyone all night long hmm

If you play it safe on the first night you can relax, and get a feel for something you might like to try next time, is it a themed night or has the club got a dress code at all?

MardyGrave Wed 19-Oct-16 11:52:56

I think I'd go for a sexy little black dress.


Goldensolait Wed 19-Oct-16 13:28:33

Depends where you are going. Women are always easier, think victoriana, corsets or even fancy lingerie if leather, pvc and latex doesn't appeal to you. The one I go to has a dress code and does not allow jeans and no full frontal nudity but you can contact them if you want to run an idea of what you want to wear past them.

hesterton Wed 19-Oct-16 13:31:19

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

HarlotsWeb Wed 19-Oct-16 18:32:29

I don't think that the things that turn me on have got a particular style of clothing associated, if you see what I mean.

So would fancy underwear under some sort of semi see through dress or see through top with pencil skirt work?

I am so clueless.

And what about hair and make up? Do people glam up?

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HarlotsWeb Wed 19-Oct-16 18:34:07

Guiltypleasures, I think it is a spanking event, but with side play of all sorts. But I just can't get a feel for what it actually looks like in practice.

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Branleuse Wed 19-Oct-16 18:35:44

i think you dress according to your own fetish. You wouldnt go dressed as a rubber doggy if that does nothing for you, and likewish with a corset

Destinysdaughter Wed 19-Oct-16 18:36:37

Depends which one you are going to. Torture Garden in London is very glamorous, some are more relaxed. Also depends on your figure. Corsets are better for the fuller figure, rubber if you are skinny. You can't really be overdressed at a fetish club TBH. Lingerie is ok or a short black dress with heels and stockings. Jeans are generally a no no, but depends on how strict the dress code is.

Destinysdaughter Wed 19-Oct-16 18:39:22

These are the sort of things women often wear

TiggyD Wed 19-Oct-16 18:41:53

Whatever turns you on. What makes you feel sexiest. Rubber, leather or PVC in most cases. A corset type top might not cut it in some clubs as it's a bit of a normal club look.

The club/event will probably have a gallery to get inspiration from.

Goldensolait Wed 19-Oct-16 19:45:24

Is there a fetish shop near the place? They'll be used to customers attending those events and what to wear.

I go to a BDSM/fetish night and the general rule is if you can go to a club or bar in it, it's probably not enough. It really does depend on the club though. If you're on Fetlife, the local groups will help you out with queries regarding outfits.

HarlotsWeb Wed 19-Oct-16 20:13:15

Oh crap,golden I was hoping that a slightly slutty bar look might cut it. (Or what would be a slutty look on me, though it would probably look stylish and gorgeous on a stylish and gorgeous young thing.)

I just can't imagine myself looking nice in anything. Which is so stupid, as from what I hear everyone is immensely accepting anyway!

I am fuller figured, destinysdaughter

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KatieHopkinsAteMyHamster99 Wed 19-Oct-16 21:15:33

Have you checked their website? Many have dress code info or pix
I got a crotchless fishnet body stocking from eBay for a tenner.
It's incredibly comfortable and flattering. I wore it with nothing underneath to a club and jaws hit the floor left right and centre grin You could wear with a g string to be slightly less naughty

TiggyD Wed 19-Oct-16 21:16:16

You're not exactly sounding like a person who wants to go to a fetish club. Why do you want to go?

Goldensolait Wed 19-Oct-16 21:55:13

Oh goodness there are all shapes and sizes don't worry about that. They are totally accepting.

Have you checked their website and what they say? Some here are talking about certain bits of nudity and here you wouldn't get in with that, against certain laws.

I would imagine a spanking event people might be more fully dressed, as in could get away with slutty secretary, naughty school girl type thing?

I'm curious as to who you are going with, have they not been before and able to tell you?

Destinysdaughter Thu 20-Oct-16 08:10:26

If you are fuller figured OP then you will totally rock a corset!

HarlotsWeb Fri 21-Oct-16 14:01:01

I'm grand about going, tiggy, honestly! I absolutely promise that. This worry about what to wear and how to look right is something that I have all through my life, so i suppose it's natural I'd feel it here too. If I could walk in starkers I would be absolutely fine!

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HellsBellsnBucketsofBlood Fri 21-Oct-16 14:04:36

Rubber makes you v sweaty (just to warn you). Personally I would do Black jeans (tight) - and a sparkly corset over as a top, with some sexy shoes for a first visit.

HarlotsWeb Fri 21-Oct-16 14:05:11

goldensolait, I am going with a male partner of mine who is just not very noticing about that sort of thing and says it doesn't matter. And possibly it doesn't! And a female friend of his, who I'll meet for the first time there.

This random clothing anxiety is so dull that I'd rather let loose with it here than with them!

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HellsBellsnBucketsofBlood Fri 21-Oct-16 14:05:27

And corsets are awesome on a fuller figure (don't lace too tight or you'll get backache).

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