I have name changed as I feel a little embarrassed. I have been with my dh for 10 years. In the main we have a really good relationship and we are intimate so far as kissing and touching hugs etc on a daily basis.
When we first got together like most new couples we were at it like rabbits and he was very attentive, I have always found it difficult to orgasm through sex however at times with dh I now can.
We don't have a particularly active sex life and haven't for the past 3 or 4 years, dh no longer gives me oral and to be honest it makes me feel a bit rejected. I have spoken to him honestly and asked him if it's because he doesn't enjoy it which is absolutely fine I don't want him to feel obligated. He replied no he likes it, yet the next time we have sex once again no oral.
There is foreplay but it's always the same thing. He never touches me or caresses me just goes straight to using his fingers to bring me to orgasm before having sex. I now just feel frustrated, I have talked with him about this on a few occasions he says all the right things but never acts on it. I'm bored of our sex life. I want some passion I most often initiate and take the lead but for once I want him to be the dominant one. He has surprised me over the years and he gets a very enthusiastic response so I can't help but think it must be me.
I don't know what to say to him anymore. Dh has had a fair bit to deal with over the last 3 years so I can see how perhaps he's not really up for having sex a lot of the time. However I have needs and I don't think I am being selfish for wanting a more satisfying sex life or am I just being unreasonable and assume that he actually doesn't like giving oral and deal with it?
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App1esandOranges · 03/09/2016 05:36
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