I need to ask a question about one night stands and breastfeeding

(18 Posts)
Greengreenleaf Sat 02-Jul-16 16:34:20

Extended breastfeeding DS. Going out tonight and planning (as much as you can) a hook up for one night. Don't judge me, it's been so long I'm surprised it hasn't healed over grin

So to the subject of sex, er should I tell hopeful ONS beforehand that things might be a bit milky or just leave it as a surprise. Although maybe not a welcome surprise!!

Any advice?

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ExasperatedAlmostAlways Sat 02-Jul-16 16:38:49

Well that's the weirdest thread iv ever read on here ha. I can honestly say when I breastfed my kids after six weeks there was never a problem with leakage during sex or any other time as it was made on demand so id imagine it should.be fine? Just say you hate your breasts being touched?

GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt Sat 02-Jul-16 16:42:30

Depends on how old your dc is, and what your supply is like really. I found my breast didn't get engorged or leak after about 12-18 months. Only seemed to produce milk in demand. Ymmv of course!

Greengreenleaf Sat 02-Jul-16 16:46:05

I've got quite a forceful let down still. And haven't fed DS all day or night by later on.

Might just say something first or could be a shock?!

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Toofondofcake Sat 02-Jul-16 16:46:21

If he's a boob guy he might get an awkward surprise :/ ... Just saying.

MouldyPeach Sat 02-Jul-16 16:46:48

I wouldn't mention it and hope for the best. Mentioning it could go wrong ie they are disgusted or they fetishise it, which I would find a turn off, personally, from a ONS, but it might float your particular boat, no judgement grin

Pigeonpost Sat 02-Jul-16 17:19:53

Can you express before you go out? Take the pressure off a bit.


Pigeonpost Sat 02-Jul-16 17:20:52

I still wouldn't mention it though. If it happens laugh it off and if he's grossed out then so be it, was only meant to be a ONS anyway.

sonlypuppyfat Sat 02-Jul-16 17:21:25

Well it can't be that long since you had sex!!

Greengreenleaf Sat 02-Jul-16 17:37:01

14 months. It's long enough

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SaveSomeSpendSome Sat 02-Jul-16 17:42:01

I would express before hand and not say anything and just hope for the best.

It might kill the mood if you leak over him and he wasnt expecting it but it might kill the mood also if you did tell him and he was wary of it happening.

AnecdotalEvidence Sat 02-Jul-16 18:32:07

I think you should probably mention it and just ask him to stay clear of your boobs. When I was breastfeeding, any breast contact at all made me leak so it was a complete no go area for us!

Ineedmorelemonpledge Sun 03-Jul-16 13:25:22

It's not weird at all. And I hope you have a lovely date op and enjoy.

I would, as others say, try and pump a bit maybe mid evening. And definitely tell him. I imagine it's an extremely rare fetish so chances of him having that taste are fairly slim.

How do you personally feel though, about having your nipples sucked, whilst lactating? I'd definitely tell him what your limitations are if you are struggling with it.

It took me years to feel comfortable. And actually another partner. Ridiculous of me really. blush

Greengreenleaf Sun 03-Jul-16 13:40:06

Oh it was last night but thanks for the reply!

And he was into it so no problems there. Just the ego boost I needed wink

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sonlypuppyfat Sun 03-Jul-16 16:55:28

Great, thanks for that

AnecdotalEvidence Sun 03-Jul-16 17:34:53

I'm glad you had a good time and it made you feel good grin

WickedLazy Sun 03-Jul-16 20:43:32

Glad you had a good night op grin

milkybeans Sun 10-Jul-16 21:26:28

Maybe you could try to pick up one of those guys who likes to dress in an adult sized babygrow and get his nappy changed and stuff? He'd probably really get off on it.

Word of warning though, I had a friend who new a guy like this, and the relationship worked out pretty well until he actually started pooing in his nappy and wanting her to change it.

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