My boyfriend wants to pick names of people we know and use them while having sex

(34 Posts)
Vodkagold87 Mon 27-Jun-16 13:16:26

Ok so this is weird!!
After finding out im pregnant me and my boyfriend hit a bit of a dry spell!!well he decided to spice things up and pick someone we both know and pretend to be them while having sex (call each other these peoples names)not gunna lie i did find it weird but went along with it n the sex was amazing!!but now im really insecure because he chose people we know!is this the whole point of a fantasy role play or what ever that was or is he getting bored with me?and finds my friends attractive??im quite an insecure person and this was new 2 me and out of my comfort zone!im not quite sure how i feel about it

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Mon 27-Jun-16 13:20:06

If you were happy with this I would say go for it but clearly you aren't ( I wouldn't be either!)

Can you tell him you aren't happy?

CalmItKermitt Mon 27-Jun-16 13:27:04

I wouldn't like it at all. Especially if the people were called Colin and Maureen or something.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Mon 27-Jun-16 13:28:08

I would also unable to look the friends in the eye ever again without going bright red!

Vodkagold87 Mon 27-Jun-16 13:53:42

Yeah i dont think he would want me 2 be uncomfortable.i get that he was trying to spice things but this is a little weird for me.
Omg maureen and collin haha!!
I do see the person he chose occasionally not very often.the guy i chose i only met once and it was the first name that popped into my head was mentioned by someone else and i instantly had this weird guilty feeling like id done something wrong!!

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Chinks123 Mon 27-Jun-16 13:59:50

Fantasies are only weird if you're uncomfortable with it. I would find this very odd as I would start thinking like you that he fancies my friends as there are plenty of other ways to spice things up. But that might not be the case you need to talk to him. An old friends bf used to say my name in bed to "wind her up" it made me feel very odd.

HappenstanceMarmite Mon 27-Jun-16 14:34:01

I think your instincts are correct.


AnecdotalEvidence Mon 27-Jun-16 18:24:41

It doesn't sound like you are comfortable with this at all.
Maybe you could come up with a few other ideas to spice things up a bit.
A long as he is fine with you saying no, then there isn't a problem. If he objects and tries to push things you're not keen on, then you have a big problem.

Benedictinemonk Mon 27-Jun-16 20:46:52

I had a girlfriend many years ago, who asked me (after we'd been in a relationship for several months) if I fancied her sister. Now her sister was an attractive woman, and had I not been with my girlfriend I may well have been interested, but of course I said something like "no, I only have eyes for you".

Girlfriend kept pushing the matter, over many weeks, and in the end I agreed that yes, the sister was attractive. Next thing I knew was girlfriend asking me, during sex, to imagine her sister was with us in a threesome ... what would I do to her etc etc. In the end I joined in her fantasy and vocalised imaginary scenarios, which she seemed to be really turned on by.

We eventually split up for unconnected reasons. I don't think there's any real harm in fantasy scenarios in the bedroom if both partners are happy with them, but if one partner feels uncomfortable with a fantasy then probably better to think of something else to add spice.

suspiciousofgoldfish Tue 28-Jun-16 07:22:56

You're right OP.

That is weird.

But not as weird as Benedicts post grin

I would say yes, he probably would like to have a go at shagging your mate. Maybe don't play this game again.

SueTrinder Tue 28-Jun-16 23:43:57

If he wants to do it again suggest you use celebrities names, bit weird IMHO to use the names of people you know in RL.

HappenstanceMarmite Wed 29-Jun-16 19:31:02

Pick someone you both know who is better looking/more talented/more successful/drives a better car/has a massive knob then see how he likes dem apples grin

BumFunName Wed 29-Jun-16 19:33:26

DH likes me to talk about what I would do with various friends if his and mine if they were there. It's harmless.

But if it doesn't float your boat, don't do it.

Anyfuckers Sat 02-Jul-16 10:50:40

We do this to enhance things. Only fantasy though neither of us would follow it through. Just adds a bit of excitement to DTD sometimes.

AnyFucker Sat 02-Jul-16 12:18:48

Hello there Anyfuckers

Great name but I wonder if you realise it is very, very close to mine.

And that by sharing the details of your sex life here you are going to jeapordise my reputation as an uptight sex hater wink

MerryMarigold Sat 02-Jul-16 12:23:23

AF, I was shocked at that post from 'you'.grin

PortiaCastis Sat 02-Jul-16 12:29:07

AF I thought that post was you, how confusing!
OP I wouldn't be happy and doesn't seem like you are. Have a good discussion about it

HappyHippyChick Sat 02-Jul-16 12:31:59

I was also a bit shocked by AFs post! grin

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Sat 02-Jul-16 12:32:52


Thornrose Sat 02-Jul-16 12:33:39

AF that made me shock grin

Yokebe Sat 02-Jul-16 12:36:39

grin AF's

Goingtobeawesome Sat 02-Jul-16 12:37:04

Another one who was shock at the AF saying that.

BerriesandLeaves Sat 02-Jul-16 12:39:10

Ha ha at Colin and Maureen

AnyFucker Sat 02-Jul-16 12:40:19

Would it really have been such a shock ? smile

I am going to have start doing a bit of oversharing.... never gonna happen

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Sat 02-Jul-16 12:41:26

My jaw was on floor and I'm sure I actually said ' what the actually fuck??!!' out loud wink

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