What has happened to my sex drive?

(35 Posts)
NeedACleverNN Fri 24-Jun-16 21:12:51

See AF told you I would start a thread wink

I have a fairly low sex drive anyway. Think maybe once a fortnight to a month is normal. However me and dh have not have sex since new year and it's my fault. I just have no interest what so ever.

I love my dh and have no issues with him so it's not that.

I have wondered if it's the birth control I am on. I am currently on the Mirena. Could this be affecting it? We have noticed my sex drive dwindling ever since it has been put in. I've had it almost a year now.

If I was to get it removed what could I go on?
I can't have the injection as if gives me migraines
I also can't have the pill that has the same hormone as the injection as it's the same effect. Though I know there are other pills I can try (leaning towards this one)
Don't want the implant. Makes me feel ick
Can't have the copper coil. I was warned off it by the doctor as apparently it can make your period flow heavier and I suffer anaemia

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Ikeameatballs Fri 24-Jun-16 23:04:58


PurpleWithRed Fri 24-Jun-16 23:15:35

Abstention? <sorry not helpful>

EatShitDerek Fri 24-Jun-16 23:17:24

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NeedACleverNN Fri 24-Jun-16 23:21:00

Rather not do condoms if possible. Dh would in an ideal world not wear them as he doesn't like them but he will if it's the last resort. We are already abstaining grin. Kinda wanna get it back.

And derek I bloody knew it!!! By voting out its fucked up my sex drive!! Gits

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Howmuchisthatdoggyinthewindow Fri 24-Jun-16 23:24:03

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UmbongoUnchained Fri 24-Jun-16 23:24:18

Have you tried turning it off and on again?


NeedACleverNN Fri 24-Jun-16 23:36:21

Now that's an option umbongo...quick questions where is my off switch? <panic> I can't find it!!

And I think some form of pill is the option. Do we think the Mirena could be a cause though?

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UmbongoUnchained Fri 24-Jun-16 23:40:46

It could well be!

I highly recommend cerazette. It made me a ravenous cock hungry beast. And now I'm pregnant.... Such is life.

UmbongoUnchained Fri 24-Jun-16 23:42:01

So actually in hindsight I don't recommend cerazette

NeedACleverNN Fri 24-Jun-16 23:43:36

Ah...see pregnancy is what we WANT to avoid. Dh is looking at getting the snip soon so that will be a big help but he's only 25 and I think it's going to be a big battle to get the doctors to agree

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UmbongoUnchained Fri 24-Jun-16 23:46:18

Ah that's a bummer. I think most contraception fucks about with your hormones and stuff.

NeedACleverNN Sat 25-Jun-16 00:00:33

What is his chances of getting the snip at 25?

Whilst we would love to have more children, both pregnancies have fucked my health up terribly and I have chronic back ache. Any more pregnancies could potentially make it so much worse so we have admitted no more for my health

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MarkRuffaloCrumble Sat 25-Jun-16 00:00:51

Umbongo grin not the best advertisement then?!

UmbongoUnchained Sat 25-Jun-16 00:03:03

I imagine they're pretty slim. Obviously with out sounding like a downer, you don't know what will happen in the future. My dad had the snip when he was married to my mum in his 30's then they divorced and he wanted children with his new wife so had to have it reversed so it's best to keep options open. Maybe just play around with a few different things till you find something that works for both of you with the snip being a final option maybe?

UmbongoUnchained Sat 25-Jun-16 00:03:31

mark no grin was a shock to say the least!

MarkRuffaloCrumble Sat 25-Jun-16 00:03:45

I don't think they'd be keen TBH. Especially if it's your health at stake, sorry to say they'd recommend you get sterilised instead, despite it being a bigger op.

Would you consider natural birth control methods (tracking your fertility and making sure to only do risky things at non risky times? DP and I have managed to stay pregnancy free for 4 years by just sticking to oral, manual, withdrawal etc most of the month and just doing risky things at non risky times.

MarkRuffaloCrumble Sat 25-Jun-16 00:04:40

Sorry for repetition, iPad messing about and deleting bits!

NeedACleverNN Sat 25-Jun-16 00:05:00

Yeah I'll give it a go. Though I suppose if I find hard enough we could win
Dh is adamant he wants no more children even if we split up. He didn't actually want children in the first place but came round to it for me

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NeedACleverNN Sat 25-Jun-16 00:06:30

I would be very reluctant to do natural birth control especially regarding withdrawal.

We have a case of getting a bit carried away so it's likely he wouldn't withdraw in time

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UmbongoUnchained Sat 25-Jun-16 00:07:18

It to quote Lily Allen, "no baby in the bum bum"


NeedACleverNN Sat 25-Jun-16 00:10:58

My exit hole is firmly that!

Exit only!!!!! Access denied!! angry

despite dh trying his best to persuade me

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UmbongoUnchained Sat 25-Jun-16 00:12:49


Well, my ideas have been flawless so I don't know what else to suggest grin

NeedACleverNN Sat 25-Jun-16 00:14:09

Well what bloody use are you?!

I post here I expect results!

<lighthearted obviously. Love you really>

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UmbongoUnchained Sat 25-Jun-16 00:17:12

I am most offended and shall start a secret thread to talk about you behind your back.

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