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I had a baby 11 months ago and we have only had sex a handful of times since. I thought my sex drive had totally gone, but I think there is still a glimmer there...! I think about sex and have had some filthy dreams lately(!) but doing sex just seems weird now. I dont feel like I have the confidence. The problem is, my other half doesnt help, he is very shy when it comes to telling me what he likes/doesn't like etc so I feel like i don't want to initiate..
I know it's all about communication but I remember once when I asked him what underwear he would like me to wear it was like getting blood from a stone...!
A combination of having a laid back partner and me lacking in confidence means neither of us bother...
I need ideas to pep it all up please.. And how do I get him to open up..?!!
Can you arrange a babysitter for night? Go out for a nice meal, have a few drinks, maybe buy some new undies? Once you get 'going' again after having a baby it soons gets back to how it used to be x