strange for not owning a sex toy??

(10 Posts)
AlwaysStarving Sat 05-Dec-15 00:05:39

sil and I got talking about sex haha smile cut a long story short she tells me her and her bf have sex toys and use dildos, clit vibrating things etc. I was shocked and intrigued! hmm am i missing something here?? me and dh have been married for 5 years and have 2 dd's. he is 31 and I am 24 but the thought of a sex toy has never ever entered my head. but now I want one blush merely because i am intrigued! are we weird for never discussing using other things during sex?

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Joycey29 Sat 05-Dec-15 08:31:30

Then try it - most people love it but experiment!

kinkytoes Sat 05-Dec-15 08:40:28

We used to but don't bother now. We get our rocks off fine enough with just each other grin

AlwaysStarving Sat 05-Dec-15 15:48:16

Where could I start? What the hell is a cock ring supposed to do? and would a dildo make dh feel insecure? I don't know how to broach the subject with him in case his balls feel offended hmm

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WallyBantersJunkBox Sat 05-Dec-15 18:33:57

I think choosing a toy depends on the way you are stimulated.

If it's mainly clitoral there is a huge market for specific toys now - to use alone or during sex etc.

I have a few for clitoral stimulation as a hard dildo just doesn't do it for me and I'd rather have my partner there to fulfil that part. Saying that we plan to buy for fun one of those "Clone a willy" kits as I have a DP fantasy of having him in several places at the same time.

I use a clitoral toy on my own or with him. He uses it on me, and also enjoys watching me climax with it while he gets his rocks off.

I also experience strong multiple clitoral orgasms wth toys during penetration which is very pleasurable for him.

We sometimes use a plug on me anally as for me it really intensifies the pleasure.

Last week we attended an erotic fair and bought him an adjustable cock ring. He is very very well endowed and it really helped keep his erection on a very pleasurable Sunday morning. But you need to be careful of prolonged use with these and it was good to see them before buying to test how stretchy they were on my wrist (which we compared for size before hand blush)

I would like to try one of those pumps and I think next on the list would be to upgrade my fairy wand to one of the Hitachi wands which give very nice vibrations all over.

I would browse Lovehoney and read the reviews watch the videos etc.

But to be honest if it's not something you both want then why break the pleasurable status quo?

Butterchunks Sat 05-Dec-15 18:43:54

If you are happy with how things are then don't feel you are missing out just because other people do different stuff in their bedroom. If this is something you and your dp would like to explore then go for it.

Lovehoney is a great place to start, excellent customer service and good website. You and your dp could share some ideas of what you might like to try with each other. If you are not sure where to start I would highly recommend something like this:

lovehoney bullet

discreet, quiet, and effective grin

AlwaysStarving Sat 05-Dec-15 22:19:54

wowzer wallbantersjunkbox! why do I think a willy might explode with a cock ring on? and what does an anal plug do? like literally stick it up your bum and that's that??

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mrsleomcgary Mon 07-Dec-15 14:39:35

You arent weird by any means! But using toys as a couple certainly adds something.

Agree with all the recomendations for lovehoney,they have loads of ideas. Look around and see what takes your fancy. They have 2 for £20,3 for £30 and they usually include 'beginners toys' so thats a good place to start. If you've never used one before I would either go for something silicone as its softer and more comfortable than hard plastic, or a bullet vibe. If/when you order something experiment (alone and together) and take it from there.

Saucyswinger Mon 07-Dec-15 21:05:00

Not strange but I'd be very surprised if any of my friends had never even tried one. Lovehoney are very female friendly and a good starting point but there are other retailers too.

Have you never been to an Ann summers party?

I like the lovehoney smooth and bullets. Also have a clitoral wand.

Some guys are open to it some aren't, some don't mind as long as not used while they're there, some get off on watching.

Have a browse on lovehoney, you don't have to buy anything but it can't hurt to look.

WallyBantersJunkBox Tue 08-Dec-15 20:41:54

Not explode so much confusedgringrin

But something about keeping the blood supply u der pressure I guess.

You can buy all sorts of plugs, vibrating glass etc. I have a metal one quite small and it does make sex more pleasurable for me.

Have you talked to your partner about it?

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