Hi,
I'm new to Mumsnet and really hope someone can help me out with a problem I can't discuss with anyone I know for reasons which will become obvious.
I am 29 and have been married just over 2 years. And I haven't had sex since 2009. Yes, you did read that right! OH and I have never had a particularly wild sex life right from the start but we did used to be physically intimate a couple of times a week in the early days. Since then, we have had a couple of occasions where he has got- shall we say- excited and then we have come to have sex and his willy has let him
Down!! And then for the last 6 years nothing.
I love this man absolutely to pieces and really just adore him. We kiss, cuddle every night, hold hands... But whenever I try to initiate any more (or drop huge hints that he could), there is just nothing. I feel like he must not find me physically attractive as I'm sure most men would be eager to have sex at any possible opportunity.
We don't have kids but both want to start a family in the next year or so... We even talk about having a baby but still no sex and I'm worried now what to do. I love him so much but this is not normal and it is knocking my confidence... Have tried to talk to him and he just says 'we will do it' and then makes an excuse/pretends to fall asleep/something similar.
Since our relationship started 10 years ago i know there has been one incident where he kissed a woman from work and (unbeknown to him) , I looked on as they flirted on Facebook. I confronted him and he was devastated and swore it would never happen again- I genuinely don't think it has since- he just said it made him feel good about himself.
I really don't know what to do. I have built a life with him, invested so much and really do want a future with him but don't know how this will all map out? I know I need to talk to him but he is just so reluctant.... I can't force him to sleep with me and wish I didn't have to. I wouldn't want to be with anyone else but wouldn't be lying if I said I didn't fantasise about sex with others. Would be so grateful for any advice anyone could give- feeling desperate.
Thanks in advance,
H x
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Eeyore777 · 19/10/2015 18:47
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